So by now you know my other little ‘job’ which I started recently is a Free dating website in Australia for 18 to 30 year olds (mentioned here, here, here and here) which I have been loving learning from and watching grow daily now which excites me to no end. On it however I don’t just have lovely singles, I have date ideas – think restaurant reviews and events around capital cities, but what I also have is dating advice, which has fast become a passion writing on. I’m no expert. I don’t claim to be. To be honest, I don’t think anyone can claim expert advice when it comes to anything on love or life, at the end of the day it really just comes down to life experience and personal opinion and like anything in life, you only need to take anything on board you want too. In light of that, today I wanted to share an article I wrote the other day for Possibly Maybe (you can find the original here) on being approachable.
Are you Approachable?
Chances are you’re not…
Over the weekend I spent some time with a good friend of mine who is (dare I say the S word?) … Single, and, for the purposes of this article, we will aptly name him Mr S.
Now big deal you might say. I’m single, I have heaps of single friends, it’s fine to be single & there’s probably a good reason as to why he is single anyway – to which I simply & honestly reply, I agree with you!! BUT there is more to it for Mr S & I’m sure most people can relate. To give everyone more of a background on the kind of guy my Mr S is I draw your attention to the following dot points:
- He is, by all standards very good looking.
- He owns property.
- Is financially secure.
- Has a healthy appetite for independence & hobbies.
- Loves healthy eating & exercising (& this shows physically if you are following ..)
- Loves his family, friends & is an all round great guy.
But this is where the crux of it is. Mr S has dated, is dating, does date but always has the same thing to say: “it’s so hard meeting nice girls because they’re all just so unapproachable”
How many Mr & Miss “S”s are you letting pass by because you have an un approachable demeanour & attitude when you’re out – probably a lot.
Let’s think a little crazy here (hold on to your hats boys & girls) and assume for a moment that not ALL guys or girls want to hit on you when they do say a cheeky hello (or possibly a lame pick up line) – maybeeeee they just want to see if you both hit it off.
Tips on Becoming More Approachable
- Smile More
- Don’t be rude to everyone that approaches you
- Utilise your eye contact better
- Be yourself
And who knows, you could meet your very own Mr or Mrs S!