It’s ok to change

“Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending – to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how the story ends” – Brene Brown.

Before & After

As all beautiful synchronicities go, as I landed in beautiful Bali on Tuesday night, Morgan and I were laughing and reminiscing over our very first Bali trip back in 2008 and how fast forwarding 7 years, just how much we have both completely transformed our lives.

Remembering the exact girl I was, I had to go back and find the photos from that time – you get to meet her now as the girl in the left of that photo.

I was riddled with anxiety, carrying extra kgs from a toxic lifestyle, and although there are thousands of fond memories from every aspect of my life, even the bad – I can say that the bad feelings I used to feel and the lack of worthiness I shouldered far exceeded the good feelings I had and worthiness I so sought.

The story most know today is I hit my breaking point of knowing something had to change.

So I did.

You know that quote that says: “actually, I just woke up one day and decided that I didn’t want to feel that way anymore or ever again. So I changed….just like that”


That was me.

I went on my major journey of self discovery and started to work out who I was. Book by book by book. Meditation by meditation by meditaion. Gratitude by gratitude by gratitude by gratitude. Beautiful friend, by beautiful friend, by beautiful friend. Gym session by gym session by gym session.

I discovered, rather profoundly that…

I wasn’t the ecstasy on weekends.

Or the alcohol at parties to give me confidence.

Or saying the wrong thing to the wrong person to fit in.

I wasn’t the bitching or the gossiping or the negativity.

I wasn’t my feelings of hopelessness.

Nor was I the crippling anxiety from suppressing who I WAS.

My soul started to rumble with the truth …. The truth of who I WAS. And I went on my journey to find that out. I know this doesn’t confuse you either – you know exactly what I’m talking about, because you have felt it too. The whisper or loud knocking on your soul to step in to more of the person you truly are and leave behind all the mess and confusion.

The more I tapped in to my true self, the more I allowed my personality to come through, the more I didn’t say the things I didn’t want to and DID say the things I wanted to – finding my voice, the more I surrounded myself with positive people and the more I read books that uplifted my soul – I found my truth.

And the truth was simple.

That I had a spirit that was pure divinity – just like every other beautiful human on the planet.

That I had all the confidence I needed by simply being my (loud) authentic self.

That I could never say the wrong thing to the right person and that the key was surrounding myself with the right people – in every way, every day.

That I was love. That I could give love, receive love, speak love, act in love and be consumed by love.

That my personality was perfect the way it was when I was most being myself and I didn’t have to say or be or do anything that was out of alignment with that to appease anyone else.

The truth was that I was worthy.

The truth was I didn’t need to be validated by anyone else – but me.

And my life changed.

I became the girl you now see in the right of that photo.

Here is what I need people to most get right to their soul however.

It’s that you’re allowed to change.

Your allowed to have gotten so completely lost and off track and done stupid things and said stupid things and want to change.

You can have been the crazy loud fighting girl – and want to become the softer, more loving girl that is inspired by positivity.

You can have always been the quiet reserved one but really had this loud eccentric spirit who is sick of being squashed and ready to bust out. Bust her out I say.

You can have been a wild corporate workaholic (and no doubt be miserable) and actually re birth yourself as the woman who has always been inside who is a hippie loving yogi who wants to run away to Nepal and write a book or become a nude model.

I don’t know your truth. I don’t need to know your truth. I just need YOU to know your truth and I need you to start to un cover it, step in to it and powerfully live it out.

And NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO TELL YOU OTHERWISE. NO ONE can stop you in to becoming the person you were born to be.

No one.

People will try though. Believe me, they will try. They will tell you that “this isn’t you, where has she come from? You are the crazy one remember, you think youre too good for us now do you?” They will say it to your face some days and other days they will tell everyone but you to try to keep you in the box and confines of what they were comfortable with you being.

But don’t let them stop you on your quest for your truth.

You have a spirit inside of you bursting to live authentically. Gently knocking, sometimes loudly nudging….everyday …. I know you feel it and I know you have heard it, because I did too. And I listened.

And don’t think that trying to step in to your truth will be easy or come without growing pains.

I was bullied. Constantly.

I was attacked with words, belitted, cut down and cut out from peoples lives (you know, the ones who still wanted me to be an asshole and feel shit about myself who should never have been in my life to begin with).

But none of that mattered anymore – because I knew who I was and meeting that girl, this woman I am today – the one who has a voice and loves herself and knows exactly who she is – that excited me more than I can ever explain and it kept me hungry on my quest to bring her out.

Find your hunger.

Go on your fucking quest for truth – it doesn’t need to be scary or extreme either. You DO need to begin it though.

Don’t fear this change. Honour and be excited by it.

LISTEN to the gentle calls (or maybe it’s more of a loud knocking) that you have ignored for far too long.

Understand that you were created and you are here to be you, exactly as you are and wildly authentic.

I listened and you can see your journey in colour before your very eyes. I went from not caring about my health at all (I literally thought it was ‘cool’ to love shit food and drink my weekends away) to having health as my absolute #1 priority and having one of my greatest passions as fitness. IMAGINE if I had of listened to even one person when I went on this quest who said “who do you think you are you, you are absolutely not this person” – well no actually, it’s exactly who I am.

Tune in. It’s all I’m asking. You have a truth inside of you that is busting to come out and you can’t be scared of it anymore. IT’s your JOB to live your brightest most authentic life, and your spirit can’t wait a day longer.

And as the beautiful insightful Brene Brown says..

Your job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending – to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how the story ends”

How will YOU choose your story to end?

I hope it’s bold. I hope its authentic and I hope its in bright colour.

Are you living a life of TRUE Freedom?


Freedom. 7 little letters forming a word that can mean so much to some and conjure so much emotion in others. Here where I sit, I could never know what that word means to you or what kind of emotion it stirs, and maybe, hey maybe it conjures no emotion for you, but if I may, I would love to share here what it means to me – and I hope you might get something out of this too.

I believe Freedom to be exactly what it has always intended to be – the power or right to act, speak or think as one wants.

Let’s go a little deeper on that though.

To me, the SINGLE HANDED most free’ing ‘thing’ in the world you can EVER gift yourself is not caring what other people think about you. Letting it ALL go. Knowing that their perception and opinion is just that, THEIR’S and it’s shaped by their own life experiences and beliefs and values. And that’s ok. My favourite quote is “it’s their stuff, not yours”.

I see it everyday. In every way. People desperate to speak up, to act out, to have a voice, to laugh loudly, to share a positive message – and yet they are so frozen in fear of what other people might think or say or how they might be perceived, they stop themselves. They stay silent. They muffle the laugh. They choose to not spread a message dying to come out.

You have to understand this though and understand it well, if you are one of the extremely lucky ones to live in a free country with free speech – to silence yourself is a heartbreaking choice.
Some of you may be thinking, who am I to bring this truth to you, and I SHARE this truth because I have lived on both sides. Giving away my freedom and now reclaiming it back and knowing I have the power and right to act, speak and think as I want.


I remember it well. I was 23 and I really started to ‘change’. I didn’t want to have all my conversations with my friends revolve around other people anymore. I didn’t want to be so negative and anxious all the time and so I started to change. I read more books and went on a huge journey of personal development. I started to become who I wanted more to be – positive, happy, I wanted to share the inspiring quote on facebook with the most loving of intentions, I wanted to share the journey I was on.

Like all people will experience many times in their life though, I had people in my networks that really didn’t like I was changing. So they would be extra negative and berate if I tried to be positive.

They tried to take away my freedom and right to act, speak and think as I wanted too.

Luckily I never listened, for long. Initially, it hurt, I got angry and upset and almost let them stop me for a whole…hour. And then Morgan my amazing husband clearly with much more wisdom and insight than me said “are you really going to let these negative opinions dictate your future – GO AND BE SUCCESSFUL REGARDLESS”. So, I stopped caring what they thought of me, I realized it was none of my business, it was THEIR stuff, not mine and finally took those steps for the first time in my life, it was the greatest gift I could have ever given myself. It was the very definition of freedom to me. I had never felt more free.

I know if I had of cared what other people thought of me I would never, ever, ever be where I am today. No way, no how.

And it didn’t just happen when I was younger either. At 25 I joined a network marketing company and wanted to get my health back on track with their world class nutritional cleansing products.

I was so excited. I was ready to grow again, to try something new, to be positive and make an impact. But again, people in my networks didn’t like that I had chosen something so, so different.

They didn’t like that I was again, changing – which you HAVE to understand is incredibly crazy when it has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else but yourself when you ARE going through a change in your life.

I was told I was crazy, an idiot, I was questioned by girlfriends who thought it was all a façade saying, ‘as if you’re really that grateful and happy Anna’ – it was like they needed me to actually not be getting ahead and to stay stuck where I was. I lost friends over it, their doing, not mine. I was mocked, bullied viciously and publicly vilified.

All because I chose to again make a choice to better myself and move myself forward.

These people, tried with all they had to take away my power and right to act, speak and think as I wanted to – they tried to take away the very definition of Freedom, in a free country, with free speech.

And guess what I did? I again didn’t listen. I didn’t care for 1 second about their opinions. By this stage in life I had learnt that unless you are living the life I want to lead, of love and happiness, of contribution and making something of yourself – I wasn’t ever going to listen to your opinions and I certainly wasn’t going to care what you thought of me whilst I set out to live my own life.


Paying zero attention to the opinion and judgement of others is ALWAYS done in a loving intention as well, it’s never, ever a “I don’t give a f what you think” .. ever. It’s a “I love you for where you’re at and what you think of me has no bearing on who I am or how I will live my life” – the greatest thing of all now though is I don’t even have to actually say that now, because to defend an opinion or judgement of someone is to give it energy, and to give it energy is unnecessary when you can continue to just go out and keep living your life of love and adventure.

Did it take me a long time to get to that stage? Yes of course, it is absolutely a muscle you have to flex and build and truthfully, there are still fleeting moments I of COURSE slip up (we are all human after all living a beautiful human experience).

The KEY to being ok with not worrying about what people think though is surmised beautifully in this quote – “in order to love who you are, you can not hate the experiences that shaped you”.

I don’t run or hide from my past – so NO ONE has power over me.

WHY on EARTH should you be ashamed or embarrassed or hide from what you did when you were failing forward (I still am and always will be), when we do that we hand over ALL of our power and of course get affected by what people think or say about us.

The moment you can honour every part of your past, good and bad, and be ok with it is the moment you start reclaiming some of your power.

Who you were back then doesn’t have to have any affect on who you are becoming or who you WANT to be.

So I want you to think about this, where in your life are you stopping yourself from saying what you really feel? Or doing what you really want? All from fear of what other people might think or say.

I have some news for you and I want you to really be ready to hear this – but….

 you’re allowed to change.


You’re allowed to have been a crazy party’ier and now want to stop the drugs or alcohol and lead a more positive life.

I did.

You’re allowed to have never been sure about what you wanted and where you wanted to go and now found something you’re REALLY passionate for and GO for it.

I did.

You’re allowed to have been someone who has never had a clue about fashion and now loves to at least try to keep up with the trends if that is what makes you happy.

I did.

You’re allowed to have been someone who was really negative and an asshole and now actually like people and want the best for them (in fact if that’s you then I am cheering you on so loudly)

And guess what? You’re allowed to SHARE ALL OF THAT. You’re allowed to be excited by it. You’re allowed to want to go on that journey and not do it in secret. You’re allowed to say how you feel and enjoy the transition.

YOU’RE ALLOWED TO HAVE THE POWER AND RIGHT TO ACT, SPEAK AND THINK EXACTLY AS YOU PLEASE without anyone attacking or judging or bringing you down.

And if that happens – maybe those people aren’t ready to move in to the next phase of your own life and that’s ok too, just love them where they’re at, don’t spend time with those that make you feel horrible about yourself and keep moving forward.

I think you are remarkable the way you are – flaws and eff up’s and bad choices, silly mistakes and ALL and I know who you are becoming is a beautiful best version of you and you shouldn’t be afraid to step in to that power and share it, not for one second.

So love YOU and start understanding that what people think of you is NONE of your business and start stepping in to more of who you WANT to be but have been scared to because of what ‘others might say’ … remember that those who matter won’t mind and those that mind don’t matter.

Cheering you on as you step in to who you were born to be, not who society has told you to be.

Remember those who dance are considered insane by those who can’t hear the music … so it doesn’t matter if people can’t hear your music, JUST NEVER STOP DANCING TO THE BEAT OF YOUR OWN DRUM and where that beat takes you.


Making every day count

You know sometimes, there are those moments of chance that you act upon and the simple act alone can change your life dramatically? Those moments that you’re not expecting, and the lesson doesn’t come immediately, but from the act alone. Thosemoments. 

It happened to me a mere 2 days ago as I was rushing to catch my plane to Bali. I normally always come prepared with soul defyingly good books tucked neatly away in my carry on luggage, but for some reason, this trip I had forgotten. So as I rushed past the newsagent steps from my gate, I took a risk and dived in to the aisles to make a hasty choice on a book I could devour by the pools. 

Best decision ever. 

I picked up a book by a favourite inspiration of mine – Robin Sharma titled “Life Lessons from the monk who sold his Ferrari” thinking it might hopefully be as good as the first book I had read from that series ‘the monk who sold his ferrari’. Not only was it ‘as good’, it exceeded every expectation. 

I am an inspiration junkie. I am attracted to any words, pictures, movies, or seminars where I think I could burn my passion a little brighter or become more connected to something far greater. And this book delivered that. 
There was 101 life lessons – all of which I resonated with deeply. But there was one particular lesson though; lesson 72 – ‘See your day as your life’ that particularly resonated a little harder than others and made my heart beat a little faster than normal. 
It read; 

“The days come and go like muffled and veiled figures sent from a distant, friendly party, but they say nothing, and if we do not use the gifts they bring, they carry them as silently away’, observed Emerson. As you live your days, so you will live your life. It is easy to get caught up in the trap of thinking that this day does not matter much given all the days that lie ahead of you. But a great life is nothing more than a series of great, well lived days strung together like a beautiful necklace of pearls. Every day counts and contributes to the quality of the end result. The past is gone, the future is but a figment, so this day is really all you can own. Invest it wisely. 

It continued to make my heart beat a little faster again with this; 

“Your life is not a dress rehearsal. Lost opportunities rarely come again. Today, vow to increase your passion for living and multiply the commitment you will bring to each of the days that will follow this one. Many people think that it takes months and years to change your life. respectfully, I disagree, You change your life the second you make a decision from the depths of your heart to be a better, more dedicated human being.

Expansive. Soul Swelling. Screaming to the sun ‘hells yes’.  Heart beating kind of goodness. It was going in to my concisous somewhere a lot deeper than other words do. It’s because the message amongst his words spoke such truth. 
Life is just a series of days. Lived, one after the other after the other, after the other. Neither is any more special than the last, each one containing a sunrise and a sunset, and another 24 hours. And yet there are some days I think – it’s ok, I don’t have to do better today, or it can’t wait for tomorrow, as it’s “just another day”. But it’s so not. 

Every single 24 hours we have the chance to live again. Our hours turn in to days, that turn in to weeks, that turn in to months that turn in to years. But ALL our time passes day by DAY. So that is the trick to this living thing – living each DAY like it is your most special one. Here’s the thing as well, you don’t know when your time is up so imagine living each day as if it was your last. 
Would you hit snooze 4 or 5 times? No you would be up with ease at sunrise in awe that it might be your last. Would you get agitated in traffic? Nope, you might turn up your favourite tunes a little louder or take the time to call a friend or family member you haven’t spoken to in awhile (on blue tooth of course). Would you let self hate or loathing stop you throughout your day – buying that yummy lunch, saying hello to strangers because you want to, writing a big love post on your social media platforms? Nope – because all judgement would go out the window – as that day would be it to do it. 

Every single day you have a new 24 hours laid out in front of you like a gift from the universe/mother nature/God/Science – whoever or whatever you believe in. It’s yours to do whatever you like with – so don’t waste it. Just remember that life isn’t big bold grand gestures and singular days you remember, it’s living consciously, day by day making the moments count. It’s realising that you have every day to write a new story, to be grateful, to be happy and to make a different in your life and others.

So how can you make your days count or be just as special as those days you feel alive on holiday, at Christmas or on a really good day you have just had on your weekend? Here are just some of my gentle nudges with love…

+ Wake up earlier. 
+ Make sure you are happy with where you’ve chosen to be at this stage in life, and if you’re not, change it. Without delay. 
+ Spend 5 minutes each morning writing what you’re grateful for. 
+ Watch the sunrise or the sunset, at least every day.
+ Practice the art of presence in all that you say and do. 
+ Stop rushing. Stop it. 
+ Be a better listener – remember we have two ears and one mouth, you might be surprised at how much better you connect and how much a deeper connection you have. 
+ Create a beautiful home. I think a home is a reflection of the life you THINK you deserve or what’s going on inside your mind. Keep your house spacious, clean, tidy and have things you love in it. 
+ On that note; don’t wait to use the good glasses, dinner set, champagne glasses – EVERY day should be celebrated. 
+ Toast more things – I don’t have one glass of champagne without toasting to something – good health, good friends, sunsets … whatever is currently filling me up. 
+ Eat good, healthy food – your body is a temple and one that must be respected daily.
+ Move your body – whether it’s a 10 minute walking around the block or an hour in the gym…just move your body. 
+ Don’t touch your phone in the morning until you have at least done your gratitudes, kissed and said hello to your loved ones and eaten breakfast. Facebook. Instagram. Emails can wait.
+ Meditate. Daily. Without Fail. 

And lastly;

+ Be more, do less. 

If this was your last 24 hours here on earth how would you be spending it? Wildly in love with your family. Forgiving. Thoughtful. In love. Hungry for fun. Present. Are just some of my guesses – but the beautiful thing is you can have that kind of day everyday, and THAT is what creates a magnificent life. 
So what are YOU going to do today that will create a more magnificent life for yourself? I’d love to hear it even if it’s one word in the comments below. 

Images; here and here 

Working out your ideal day + Living that

Everyday is another chance to change your life 
The sun starts streaming through the cracks of your blinds, you wake, and roll over next to the love of your life, your eyes are barely even open but you’re already smiling for the day. You don’t know what time it is, but it doesn’t matter, you don’t work, you haven’t for months now, and life is bliss. 
You roll out of bed when you’re ready and begin your morning routine. You hit the gym, not because you have to, but because you love to move your body and starting your day this way is what makes you happy. You wander home when you’re ready, never worrying about what time it is, and make yourself a delicious nutritious smoothie, do some dry body brushing, take care of your skin with coconut oil, have a long hot shower, you do whatever it is that sets your day off right. 
Then the day is yours. You do your coaching calls or you don’t. You go to the beach and write out your goals and gratitudes that you do every single day. You eat delicious salad and organic goodness for lunch in the Winter sun. You stop for an impromptu coffee at your favourite cafe back on the beach, because, well, because you can.
Time is not against you. Life is yours to live. 
You are, in every sense of the word, living your ideal day. You are doing what you want, with who you want, when you want. 
What I just explained above, is my current life. I was 20 when I first heard of this idea through Tony Robbins, in a nutshell, he said, work out your perfect day – what it looks like, what it feels like, what it tastes like. He then challenged if you were living it? No? Why not? Find your why and then your how will come. 
So this is my challenge to you today. What does YOUR ideal look like? What does it feel like? Taste like? What are you doing? Who are you with? Where are you in the world? I want you to start living that. You don’t have to not work either. We can get you to that stage, but you can still allow aspects of an ideal day in to your busy lifestyle starting straight away, & here are some of my tips how; 
1. Get clear on exactly what your ideal day looks like 
It’s writing and creative time. Get a new page up on the computer or grab a paper and pen and start writing what your ideal really does look like. It doesn’t need to be grand, remember, this is your every day life. For me, it began and ended with the sun, and it involved ALL of the above. Notice how a lot of it is what I wanted to feel. I was always so stressed about time – I had none, so my ideal day I wanted freedom of choice, to not worry about time, and to spend it where I wanted – like one day at the beach, the next at the zoo. It was freedom and joy and space in my life for me. What’s yours? Write. Write for no-one but you. It might be sleeping in until 11am everyday, and that’s fine if that’s YOUR ideal day. Who is in your ideal day? Where are you? Just keep writing. 
2. See what comes up from that & start being more concious of those things in your life
Go back and read it a few times now. See what is coming up a lot for you. Is it family time? Freedom? Not rushing? Financial freedom? Work out what are the categories that come up the most for you and identify why those are most important to you. We can never have what we want if we don’t even know what it is we want. So get clear, crystal clear – this all forms part of your why. 
3. Start small but start today
Don’t think you have to quit your job and rush out immediately to start living your ideal day – because although I would love for you to be able to do that, it needs to be realistic. You would be surprised however just how much of your ideal day you can start incorporating in to your current lifestyle before living it fully. Do you want to just have 30 minutes to yourself every morning to sit and write goals? It might mean that you just have to get up a little earlier and you can actually start doing it. Think of it like this as well, say daily yoga is on your list, why not just start doing a half an hour class once a week. Like attracts like, you manifest what you think about and do, so if you start living aspects of your ideal day in your everyday life you will attract more of that a lot faster than  you realise. 
4. Visualise how it feels to live your ideal day & Write out your goals & gratitude’s every single day 
If you do one thing on the path to manifesting and living your ideal day, Visualising living said day, and writing your goals and gratitudes without fail, will get you there and attract what you need in your life with so much ease and abundance. You don’t need to write out your ideal day every day, but what is your ideal day going to give you. More time to spend with the kids? Write that. A more loving, passionate, calm, extraordinary relationship? Write that. Complete financial freedom with $x,xxxx rolling in residually each week? Write that. Never write that you WANT it either. To want something means you are in a state of lacking. Come from a place of having. Write that you already have it. This is what your daily goals should look like; 
+ I have a residual income of $3,000 a week or better with ease that allows me to live incredibly comfortable.
+ I have a loving, passionate, wonderful relationship/marriage with (insert persons name here) and we love, adore and support one another unconditionally. 
+ I have a successful business that touches millions of lives yearly and allows me to express myself freely and live on purpose.
See the difference between wanting something and having it. My gorgeous soul sister and business partner Peta Kelly said to me the other week “How on earth is the universe going to know what you want if you aren’t telling it daily” – and she’s right. 
5. Work towards it daily. Little by little, day by day.  
Never ever ever stop working towards it. Your birth right is a life filled with love, joy and peace. I am going to say that again. It is your birth right, to live a life that is filled with love, joy and peace. So go get it. I won’t take any excuses from anyone that they can’t do this. If you work on getting there, every single day, incorporating things that are part of your ideal day little by little – creating more space, more time, more calm, more happiness, more presence – you will get there. 
I have shared in this space before my ideal day. It was the week I shared I was leaving my job because I was in a position to do so financially and work on my other purpose and passions in life – like coaching and  chasing down dreams. I had an incredibly powerful week though this week – this is only my 2nd week not working and being home – as every single day, really was me living my ideal day. Why am I sharing this? Because I want you to see that you CAN do this. I don’t write about it and have no experience or idea. I did the above steps, over and over and over and now get to reap the benefits. The travel part too – Since quitting I have bought tickets to Sydney, Bali and soon to be Singapore and booked a big romantic weekend down south. 
So here it is again, in all my soulful truth – my ideal day. CHOOSE YOURS. & let’s make it happen for you.

My perfect day begins and ends with the sun. I wake up as it streams through my big glass windows waking me next to my fiance in our beautiful big warm house by the beach (or with rain pattering against the glass in winter).

I get up and drink my breakfast smoothie and laugh and smile and feel energised about the day ahead. I go for my morning run or do some yoga, or even both – time is not against me so I plod along as I please smiling all the while at how overwhelmingly grateful I am for this day.

I then have some hours engaged with my clients – I show up in our space online or in the corner of an organic coffee shop – with love & ready to give all of me and my advice, buzzing with energy as we dig deep and work on carving out their life’s path and souls purpose. Each client walks away every time feeling aligned, excited and closer to living their own dream life.

I then get back to emails in my business partners (Peta Kelly) & i’s dream office and we have our daily business meetings with natural sunlight streaming through the office, with beautiful views so we are constantly inspired and connected to our source. The meeting goes for however long we want to sit and talk about how we can give more, increase the love and good will factor and how else can we show up for our thriving community we’ve created. By afternoon I’m back at our dream home by the ocean with a big delicious green smoothie in one hand, my favourite book in the other on the balcony over looking the ocean  having some me time.

I have time every single night for date night with my hunk of a fiance Morgan and we eat by candlelit at home, or dine in our favourite restaurants with other best friends with no care for bed times  or tomorrows.

Every night I go to bed with a smile on my face knowing for that day, I left everything on the table. I loved with out wanting, I gave without expecting receiving, I showed up, I engaged, I laughed till my face  hurt & I made a difference in somebodies life (whoever I was connecting with for that day).

My ideal day is so fundamentally based around travel too. I will be in a position to look at Morgs (or call Peta or surprise my mum) and say ‘hey, let’s pack a bag and go to a tropical beach for a week or so to just unwind and relax. Or ‘lets escape to Melbourne for some shopping and restaurant hopping’ – having the freedom to do what I want, when i want with who I want – whilst always giving all of me in a loving and authentic way to inspire others to do the same encompassing my ultimate ideal days.

I would love to hear what your ideal day looks like, start to finish. Share it in the comments. Let’s declare it for you, tell the universe what you want and start making it happen. 

Stop playing small – turn your life up a notch (or ten)

Let’s all just breathe for a minute, step in to our place of love and security, leave our ego’s at the door and talk about…..your greatness.
Yes gorgeous, YOUR greatness. 
There has been this huge energy shift at the moment I am feeling that I want to grow and expand with momentum. Fast, beautiful momentum. The shift I am talking about is this growing energy of belief.
That it doesn’t matter if you had a broken heart and a harder life you can do it.
That it doesn’t matter if you are a little late to work out your gift and live your purposeyou can do it.
That it doesn’t matter if you’re not entirely sure how, but you for sure know your why you can do it.
It excites me, enthrals me, inspires me and keeps my own fire in my belly growing strong. It’s time to stop playing small. To stop being a spectator of life and jump in with your whole body screaming ‘HEY THIS IS ME, IM HERE & I WANT TO LIVE’ – and here is how I would love to gently guide you to do it…
Recognise your unique gifts & grow them
If you haven’t sat down yet and written with no inhibition, for 10 minutes what you really really rock at – I need you to do that now. You have gifts babe. REAL, amazing, unique gifts. I truly believe not uncovering those gifts, declaring those gifts and sharing those gifts is not only selfish – it is a slap to the universes face!! We were all born with a soul, we’re all different and we are all here to live our most extraordinary life – you can’t do that not uncovering your gifts, growing them and making them part of your purpose. Find them. Declare them. Live them. 
Don’t ever let anyone dull your sparkle
Don’t ever, ever, ever, everrrrr let anyone tell you you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough or anything enough to be whoever you want to be or do whatever you want to do. Because you can. You SO can and don’t you dare EVER let anyone tell you otherwise. It will be found, those that do are just trying to keep you in their comfort zone, are jealous of the positive changes you’re making and don’t understand your journey – none of which is reasonable enough for you to allow them to dull any of your sparkle. Shine as bright as can be as YOU. Nothing is as sexy as living unapolegtically as yourself and being authentic – so shine bright gorgeous. 
Start helping others 
The whole purpose of our lives, whilst all of us are living and breathing on this planet – is to help others . Truly, it is. When you develop your gifts and align more strongly with your purpose, you are by way of organic default, serving and helping others, and I can assure you, if you aren’t fully aware of your strengths yet, reach out and help others and those gifts and strengths will shine brighter than a diamond. Whenever you get stuck, whenever you’re feeling down, lost, anxious or unsure – reach out, and help someone else. It could be a loving text to say you’re thinking of them, a little gift to make them feel loved, a coffee date where you pay. You can even step it up a little more and offer your time – do some soup kitchen work at a homeless kitchen, volunteer at an eldery care home. Once you start to give back, to help, to serve – life makes sense. You gain the perspective most chase for a lifetime & fulfilment flows easier. 
Be a leader not a follower 
YOU were a born leader. We all were. You don’t need to think because you’re not loud enough, bubbly enough, strong enough, whatever it is you tell yourself enough – that you are better following than leading. ALL of you have the leadership quality in you. If you are someone that follows instead of living by example, leading authentically, then I truly believe you are playing small, letting external circumstances and friends and society dictate how you feel. Leaders know they control their own life and go and chase it. They choose better. They actively engage with life more. They know that their response and interpretation to a situation is what gives them their outcome and don’t let external circumstances dictate success or mood. BE THAT LEADER of your own life. 
You see gorgeous, you don’t need to play small, you have a right to live your truth, to pursue your passions, to earn an income from that and to live a life of your dreams. It’s do-able. It’s SO do-able, you just need to choose to stop playing small, start setting some goals and STOP letting yourself be a spectator of life. 
THIS IS YOUR LIFE. So start playing the leading role
Images: here

Creating your own Dream list of goals

15 months ago, when I sat there writing my 25 before 25 list, music blaring, heart thumping…
I never knew my how.
I just sat and I wrote.
No inhibition, no doubt, no insecurities about what if I didn’t achieve it. I just wrote.
The secret though? Is that I knew my why.
I knew I wanted to feel excited, engaged, aligned, accomplished,  soul defyingly happy. That was my why. I wanted to have little goals to chip away at to live with purpose and to give me those feelings I hope to feel every day.
And because the universe had my back and I so willingly trusted in that – I had opportunity after opportunity to fulfil each goal.
I want to hand it over to YOU though. 
Today is the day that I want you to wake up your desire, help your soul whisper a little louder to your heart and make you work out your WHY before you sit and write out your big, small and in between goals.
Having big BOLD colourful exciting goals are what make you, you, what keep your spirit on fire and help make life interesting.
So here is what I propose.
Your own xx before xx list.
Let’s do this gorgeous!
What have you always wanted to do that you have just never thought as putting as a goal? What would you love to do? What would go on a list that would make you fulfil your why.
It doesn’t have to be scary – just make sure they’re aligned with you. Don’t put anything on your list just to fill it. Take time with this process. It’s a list that will serve as a  dream deadline and that is so exciting – don’t rush it, you are about to put down things that will light you up, fuel you, excite you … lead you to awe inspiring moments and that is a process to be honoured.
I chose 25 before 25, but go for whatever works for you. Maybe it’s 30 before 30 or or even 21 before 21. Another amazing idea 2 girlfriends came up with after some inspiration from the 25 before 25 was ..13 in 2013 (but you can even say 14 for 2014…do you get where I’m going with this?)
WRITE THEM DOWN!!! Pin them where you can see them everyday. Take a photo and put it as a screen saver on your phone.
But maybe most importantly … SHARE THEM. This is your big beautiful declaration to the universe. You’re here and you have some kick ass not to mention FUN goals to tick off – the universe has your back, your heart & soul are cheering you on to succeed and your family & friends will want to help with your journey. Sharing them just makes it more real and you more full and utterly supported.
And gorgeous – I would LOVE to hear them…even just some. Consider this your first little task of declaring them, even just 2 or 3 of the ones you resonated with the hardest. This is our space of inspiration and I’d be honoured to be a part of your list. Share them in the comments below.
Sending you big warm rays of love & light,
Anna xx
Image: here 

Why I know you’ll succeed

You know sometimes when you’re plodding along with a book, a website or even a magazine and all of a sudden you read something so powerful it almost slaps you in the face. The words instantly resonate, and resonate so hard you almost get emotional from excitement? 

It’s the kind of realisation where your bodies senses go in to overdrive knowing that it will inspire you a little more to work harder and your mind, well your mind is screaming “ohmygodyessssthisissomeantforme!!!” 

That happened to me not once, but twice this week, dished up from two of my favourite ladies – Danielle LaPorte & Tara Bliss.
Danielle’s sounded a little like this; Fuck practicality. Concepts of reasonability have no place in ground-breaking.”

And Tara’s went a little like this; “And I thought ‘Shit. That’s it. That’s exactly what this is all about. ‘Not giving a F$^& about the blueprint and doing it YOUR beautiful, badass own way” 

So how does this make me know you too are going to succeed…

Because gorgeous – trust me when I say, you are on the cusp of a break through. I mean it. YOU, yes you are paving the way for your own groundbreaking revolutionary break through in your life. I can feel it. Every-where. You are wanting more of yourself, seeking more, doing more, being more…

You’re starting to realise that you are responsible for your own life & you can change anything you want to about that. 

It’s beautiful to witness, to feel and to be involved in. 

You are bringing an energy to this space. An energy hungry for change, for more happiness, more free time, less stress .. I feel it with the emails, comments, visitor numbers, and here’s the thing.

You’re going to succeed.

You are truly going to succeed. 

You don’t need to compare your journey to others though…you’ll get their in your own beautiful bad ass way.

You don’t need to stress about where to start … just start, remember it’s your why that’s important, not your how.

You don’t need more money or more time to make a difference…just a burning desire to change.

You don’t need to remember practicality through your growth .. throw the rule book out the window.

You, the you who is waking with a clearer purpose, and working on increasing joy and calm and love in your life…

IS going to succeed – I’ll be right here along side you for the ride.

It’s exciting, incredibly inspiring, vastly powerful and I am loving and urging you to keep bringing the energy that you’re bringing. 

Remember that when you are on the cusp of breakthrough and figuring it all out –  dance the beat to your own drum, run on your own time and throw all self insecurities to the wind. 

You’re here, you’re living & your time is NOW.

Anna xx

Images; here 

How to turn what you want in to a reality

Like almost everything in life I believe that there are two sides to your happiness and success. 
First, you have to want to do it – you know, hit the goal, drop the kg’s, save money to get on a holiday, do the detox or be more positive. And Secondly, you have to work hard to achieve it. 
Desire + Action = Soul defying magic. 
Without that want, that burning desire or the inexplicable exciting need you will find that your goals are harder to hit. In the exact same breathe however, you have to remember that you can want, desire and need something all you want in this world but if you are not prepared to work hard to achieve it, you might find that goal slip further from your fingertips. 
I’m going to say it again.
Desire + Action = Soul defying magic.
It’s truly that simple. 
I caught up with my gorgeous friend and soul sista’ Peta the other night for some serious pow wow business and goals talks. I walked away buzzing, but something she said to me hit me like a big warm hug and high five….
“You don’t have to know your how, you just have to know your why”.
Holy shit. It was oh SO Powerful and validated a lot for me.
You see. You can have all that you desire in this world. You really can. ALL of it. But you’re not going to get exactly what you want without desire + action. This statement summed it all up for me though – knowing the why behind whatever it is you want will give you the desire and catapult you in to action
Why do you want to loose more weight? Maybe it’s because you want to feel more confident, less bloated, grow your self love and detox your mind and body. 
Why do you want to jump out of a plane? Maybe it’s because you want to feel enthralled, free, and invincible whilst you free fall through the sky. 
Why do you want to get rid of the negative shit in your life? Maybe it’s because you are sick of wasting your energy on people who don’t deserve it and ready to live your truth instead of hiding in your shadows worried about what other people will say or think.
ALL of those Why’s to the goals are awesome, valid, amazing reasons. This is what you have to work out though.
You have to work out your why. WHY? Because it’s going to fuel your desire, stoke your fire and wake up that growing spark inside of you that is trying to live it’s calling. Once you have your desire burning inside of you, you will be unstoppable in your action. 
Working out your why and flaming your desire to me, all comes down to how we want to feel – and this is what it’s all about. Waking up, every day, with the feelings that you want to. 
I want to feel excited.
I want to feel at peace.
I want to feel aligned.
I want to feel blessed.

My why is because I want to feel this each and every day. I want to live a life by design – my design, not in a job working 40 hours a week doing things I don’t enjoy. I want to retire my mum. Buy her a big ole cottage house with a wrap around verandah and enough rooms to have all her grandkids we’ll give her one day. I know my why. It consumes me. Fills me up. Burns bright. Brighter than I could ever explain.

So are you ready to dive in to an amazingly powerful & exciting exercise? Yes? GREAT. 
1. Write down, with no (& I mean NO inhibition) your top 3 goals. Right now. I don’t care if you’re reading this at work, home, on the run. Just stop. Grab the closest pen & paper and write. Get em’ down. Your top 3 goals that you have that first come to mind. Loose 2 kgs? Cut down on 5 days working to 3 days working? Skydive? Change jobs? Start a blog? Run 5km? Book a holiday to an exotic destination?
2. Write next to them your why. Don’t stop. Let it flow. Don’t think, just write. Why do you want to achieve them? To feel better? to gain confidence? to get a guy? to feel accomplished? to stop arguing? increase your self love? Share your gift with the world? Give your mind and body peace and tranquility? Gain clarity? Become happier & healthier? Keep going, dig deeper, harder, look further than you’ve ever had to. Don’t hold back with your why either – remember we’re trying to grow your desire fire, keep the sparks hot and bright. There are no wrong answers here. Just your inner truth of why trying to get out – listen to whatever words are flowing and write them down. 
3. Write next to each goal three steps on how you can start achieving them. If a goal isn’t a goal until it’s written down, then allow me to extend that and say a goal is also not a goal until you have started an action plan. You have got your why now and that is a beatuifully exciting, overwhelming AMAZING thing. You know why you want it. You want to live a better life, be happier, get more excited, gain more confidence – that why will just grow the more you honour it, the more you dwell on it and the more you fuel your why’s .. what happens now is putting it in to action. So…what are you going to do? What are your steps? Whats the very first little thing you can do to get you started on your way. Maybe allow me to give you a little example of putting your why in to action: 
The goal: Book a holiday to an exotic location
The why? Because I owe it to myself. 
Because I am deserving of a life changing experience which is going to give me clarity, peace and a relaxing time filling my days with all of the things I love. 
Because I want to spend some quality time with my husband/wife/boyfriend/kids/self (whoever you plan on going with). 
Because my health has been suffering lately and I owe it to myself to give my body exactly what it needs.
Because I want to dip my toes in a different ocean, feel the warm sun on my face and cool afternoon breeze on my body and drink delicious fruit juices (& cocktails) by the ocean and pool all day.
(Get it? Just keep going and going and going. The more why’s you have the better) 
The action plan: 
1. Go to newsagents on my lunch break and buy a magazine on travel – full of pretty inspiring pictures, advice and travel destination. Rip some of those inspiring photos out & stick them wherever I can see them – on my bathroom mirror, on my computer at work, on my fridge. 
2. Do a rough quote on how much it is going to cost with flight websites like qantas, air asia, emirates, virgin, tiger airways, jetstar & accommodation websites like airbnb, expedia, so I know my end goal of how much I need to save.
3. Put my first $50 – $100 dollars in my savings account.
YEEEHAAA you are on your way you freaking superstar. Isn’t it exciting? Beautifully overwhelming? You are already knee deep in goal achievement. 
One of my all time favourite quotes is “you don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step”. The same applies for all of our goals. You don’t have to have it all worked out instantly, you don’t have to know your whole ‘how’. You’ll figure it out. Start with the very first step. Buying a travel magazine, or taking a new car you want for a test drive. 
Once we begin the first baby steps to living a goal, the rest becomes easier and the momentum grows. 
This is it though. You have your goals, now let’s get serious with achieving them. 
I want you to realise how powerful you are. How wonderful a life you can truly lead. How positive an influence you can be just by living your truth. How much fun, excitement  peace, joy and wonder you can have from following your desires and feelings and living a goal. 
I’ll be here, cheering you on every step of the way.
You deserve this, you’re worthy, you’re amazing.
So what are you waiting for?
Peace & love,
Anna x
Images: Here & Here.

Gratitude Journalling

[found here] 
Welcome back gorgeous! Did you take up the challenge from Friday? I hope you’re starting your Monday off fresh and ready for a new week full of possibilities. 
Grab a cup of tea though and settle in as I really want to talk to you about Gratitude Journalling. 
I had heard of Gratitude journalling for the first time about a year ago, and immediately loved the idea but felt like I didn’t really need to do it, nor had any huge desire to do it as I was already life’s biggest fan, I didn’t think writing it in a book would help me love it anymore. How beautifully wrong I was however. I started  just over 7 months ago now and I truly don’t think I’ll ever look back. 
So what is it and how can you get started?
You will need; a journal, a pen, and a willingness to want to commit to it. 
And then, you simply write. 
You write as little or as much as you like about things you are grateful for in your life. The thing I love about gratitude jouarnalling, is it’s your thing to commit as little or as much time as you like to it. I love to do it every day, but if you can’t comitt to that, just do it when you can. There is a beautiful thing that occurs when you do it though … whether you feel like it or you don’t, or whether you have a 30 minute jam session with you and your thoughts, or 5 minutes rushed just before work, once you’re done you really truly are grateful. Grateful for life and all it’s beautiful moments and things it offers to you.
It might be for the fresh flowers in the supermarket you get to smell as you do your shopping.
Or maybe for the amazing conversation you had with your girlfriend over dinner.
It could be for photos you have captured that you just recently went through, remembering all the amazing times you’ve experienced. 
Whatever you are grateful for – put it down. The warm sunshine? Loud music in your car? That text message you got from your boyfriend?  
Once you start finding so much to be grateful for in your life, you will discover that you end up finding so much more to be grateful for, you seek gratitude in all that you do and see and life just becomes more amazing. What you have is enough, and everything else is just an exciting bonus. 
If you’ve been thinking about starting and haven’t yet, then just do it. Or, if you had never heard about it until today but think you’d like to give it a go – start now! There is no time like the present to become more grateful and amp your life up a few shiny notches. 
Over to you … What are you grateful for today? I would love to hear from you in the comments x