How to be healthy & happy 365 days of the year

I can’t tell you exactly when I started to have beliefs around food that I do today, but I can tell you it has been this way for a very, very long time.

Even before I was the size I am today and have the love and passion for nutrition and fitness that I do today, I always had a healthy MINDSET around food and my body. Habits, no, but mindset, yes.

The Anna you see today, as I have very well documented over the last 5 years since birthing my blog is a vastly different woman to the Anna several years ago, but I can confidently say one thing that has been strongly consistent in my life for a very very long time is how I feel about food and the relationship I have with it.

Back when I was 17kg heavier, and honestly truly believed that as long as I cooked something at home, that it was healthy (regardless if it was an extremely creamy pasta or a massive rice dish or a carb heavy plate smothered in gravy). I thought a home cooked meal was far healthier than say a McDonalds meal, and granted I was still right, but in terms of the nutrients I was getting from carb heavy / naughty home cooked meals I had absolutely no idea they actually weren’t that amazing for me. Morgan and I were guilty as charged as well for at least once or twice a week, crawling in to bed with a big glass of coke (a cola) and a packet of salt and vinegar chips and watching a movie together.

Needless to say it’s no surprise to anyone with a heart beat and some common sense why I was 17kg heavier. But here is the thing…

I was happy – until I wasn’t of course and at that point I set out to change my health and lose the weight and just feel better in general.

But even smashing back the foods and drinks I was, I almost never ever had ‘guilt’ around the food I was eating or hated on myself for it. I enjoyed eating my gravy covered dinners or big glasses of coke, and when I ate anything, I was genuinely hungry (I have never ever ever been an emotional eater) and I would choose things that I felt like and I also thoroughly enjoyed every meal.

I still look back at how I ate back then and how little I exercised (and when I say how little I exercised I mean, I didn’t exercise at ALL) and am shocked I wasn’t kg’s and kg’s and kg’s heavier – as I should have been.

BUT I truly believe I wasn’t, because even being a bigger size, even being un healthier even with such accidental disregard for my health – there was no guilt around food, just enjoyment.

That all changed however when one night, Morgan and I were having a party at the house with a few friends, and I was my usual at the time, weekend warrior, few ecstasy deep self – and I went inside by myself to put bathers on to have a spa with the girls. I remember putting some green bathers on in the bathroom really hurriedly and as I ran back out to go join the party I caught the reflection of myself in the mirror – and honestly didn’t recognise the girl staring back. It was the first time in my life, I didn’t vibe with the body I saw in the mirror.

{ The night I knew that I didn’t love the body I was in anymore and could do better }

That was a Saturday night, and by the following morning, Morgan and I had had a huge chat about our health and weight and decided to go do something about it.

By the Monday, we were attending our first weight watchers meeting to educate ourselves on food, being inspired with some healthy recipes and learning at the very least the basics around what healthy food looked like.

The next year we changed our habits and completely transformed our lives – Morgan loosing 23kg and me loosing 17kg (6kg of which came from major jaw surgery). But that is a story for another time.

That year though, the ONE thing that never changed (because our exercise and food habits absolutely changed) was my mindset around food.

Sure I had started to eat way way way differently and so so so much healthier – but everything I put in my mouth, I still totally honoured, and yet again, there was just no guilt with any food I ate. My body and mind and I had a great relationship with food and food had a great relationship with my body and mind.

Years and years followed, and the 17kg loss was maintained with struggle to be honest through a lot of gym exercise and being pretty strict with what I ate – STILL honouring food regardless though.

A year after that, come March 2013, which was when Isagenix found me and a whole new chapter and journey in my life began. My weight maintenance the last 3 ½ years has been the easiest thing ever but my enjoyment with food has increased tenfold. That 3 ½ year journey again is another story and one you can read snippets of in previous posts on this blog.

That’s not why we’re here today talking though, we are here for the following lesson.

Over the last 3 ½ years as I just mentioned above my enjoyment of food has increased – a lot, but my relationship with food has deepened even more divinely.

You see, I honour food. So.fucking.much.

I know that I know that I KNOW, that loving food and honouring each and every meal or thing I choose to put in my mouth to fuel me makes that food digest with ease and harmony.

Whenever I eat, more than ever today, I am so grateful for the meal in front of me, and I am choosing to eat or fuel my body with nutritious yummy food and never ever have guilt around what I eat.

That probably sounds easy when you know me and you know I fuel my body with a LOT of high quality nutrition and yummy food. It’s like well of course you don’t have guilt Anna you eat really well and have amazing habits (why thank you, yes, I do, and I’m really proud of that).

But here is the kicker.

I live, the most balanced life more than anyone I know.

So yes, I absolutely eat and fuel my body with nutritious healthy food, and have cleanse days and superfood smoothies, but I also don’t have a nickname “Anna hot chips champagne Richards” for no reason.

Not a week goes by that I am not also enjoying delicious cold glasses of French Champagne or hunting down the best hot chips either in my city or around the globe. OR just being SUPER honest, grabbing the odd cheeky chocolate bar from the shops when I run in to grab something.

Then there is the travel I do, and when I travel, I can also be honest and say my eating habits are more around enjoyment and finding gorgeous cafes than a strict food plan.

And yet, my body stays harmonised and toned and healthy and slim year round.

I’m not allergic to anything, I have no intolerances and I have never cut one thing out of my diet nor counted one calorie. Ever.

So how? HOW do I honestly maintain that kind of body amongst the crazy balance of salads but hot chips, water but champagne, cleanse days but non organic chocolate, or food prep but days off with burgers….

Well I believe it’s my RELATIONSHIP that I have with ALL food and how much I HONOUR it and ENJOY it.

I can sit and have a few crazy days where I need to rely on my food prep of rice, chicken and vegetables, then fly to Sydney for 3 days and have champagne most nights, too many hot chips to count and some salt and vinegar chips on the plane (there I said it) … Or I can have a week of perfect eating with my non negotiable cleanse days but then have guests come and spend 5 days celebrating life and success with champagne, lunches and dinners out and a relaxed exercise regime …. But not matter WHAT I DO, and no matter WHAT I EAT and no matter WHAT GOES IN TO MY MOUTH…….

I honour it so damn deeply. I have absolutely ZERO guilt around it. I ENJOY it all SO much and I never eat anything I don’t feel like or won’t absolutely love.

And that is what I TRULY believe keeps my body so harmonised and happy and healthy and toned year round. Because food that goes in to my mouth is eaten with gratitude and love, and digested with ease and harmony as I talk about how much I love it, or how yummy it is.

The other major aspect to this whole theory though is what I SAY about my body also. When I finish a meal, there is no guilt, which means I NEVER say things like…

“God I feel so fat”.

“Why did I just eat that?”

“Next time I go to order chips someone stop me”

“I feel so disgusting I so need to not eat the rest of the day”

… Or any other negative comment associated with my body.

(I do occasionally say I feel a LITTLE bloated if I do, but generally it’s freaking rare I actually do, and if I say I am it’s normally backed up by “but god it’s worth it for how delicious that meal was” – I am just trying to be REALLY honest with you guys so you REALLY get this point).

I always however talk about how delicious a meal was. How yum the hot chips were. How amazing that particular champagne was. How much of a good time I had laughing or talking with friends whilst I ate said meal or drank said champagne.

I truly, deeply, fundamentally believe that our thoughts and words DO shape our reality, and I know SO many others know this to be true also (and that’s because it IS true) and yet we seem to forget that that then extends to every single aspect of our co-creating reality. Including our beautiful body.

If you are going to constantly put your body down, or say you feel fat, or pick on the parts of your body that you hate or feel guilt every time you eat food – what do you honestly think is going to happen? Nothing? Because I can tell you that unfortunately your body is ALWAYS listening and responding. If you call it fat, it thinks its fat and I believe creates fat. If you pick on parts of your body you hate, negative energy is held in those areas only making that part of your body feel worse. If you feel guilt around food when you eat it, be it a big yummy chicken salad or your favourite treat (like hot chips!) then that guilt is held and becomes a stagnant energy in your body.

Point is, anything you say aloud, or even THINK….your body is always listening.

So what do you think happens to your body when you’re in a state of gratitude for all of your food. When you sincerely enjoy all of your food – be it extremely healthy or more of a treat meal. When you honour every meal that goes in to your body. When once youre done, you hold no guilt and only hold on to positive thoughts.

I can tell you;

You digest your food with harmony.

Your food does exactly what it needs to in the body.

Energy circulates through and around your body with ease.

You live in a state of fulfilment and hold on to no guilt.

You love your body and your body responds by loving you right back.

And it’s not just thinking and saying positive things when you’re eating either. No way. Let me assure you with absolute certainty that your body is always, ALWAYS listening.

You have to SHOW your body that you love it. You have to TELL your body that you love it. You have to DRESS your body like you love it. You have to live in to feelings of LOVE for your body.

This is a constant journey I am on still and a journey I know I’ll always be on, but a journey I am honoured to be on and treasure – one of loving and accepting the meat-suit I was so divinely gifted when I chose to come back to this earth this time around.

There are moments where I still have a negative thought about my body (of course) or I wake up after a big night of delicious food and drink with beautiful friends and I feel a little heavier or groggier than usual, and have a negative thought about my food choices or how I’m feeling in my body. But would you like to know what I do in those moments? Honestly? …

I put my hand on my stomach and my heart and I tell my body how beautiful she is, how much I honour her, how grateful for her I am and I just sit or lay in gratitude telling her how beautiful she is again and again and again until I genuinely feel the shift of me believing it – then I can carry on with whatever I was doing.

I tell my body how beautiful she is. I dress my body like I love her. I give my body food and drink (it’s why I love French champagne so much) that she loves. I move, walk and talk like I love my body. And you know what I get in return?

A body that so loves and nourishes me back.

You get to choose.

In every moment in every day, you are either choosing your thoughts that empower or disempower you, and it’s no different for when you are eating for or talking or thinking about your body.

There are no ‘5 steps to’ or ‘3 ways to change’ when it comes to your body + relationship with food. It’s just a conscious decision again, and again, and again and again to choose love. To choose to be grateful for every meal you sit down for. To choose to feel satisfied and happy after a meal. To choose to send your body love when you’re not necessarily feeling it or her. To choose to honour the food that goes in to your mouth.

It’s not always going to be a perfect this journey to self love of food and your body – but it’s a journey that is SO WORTH giving time and energy and a deeper level of commitment to, because you really DO only have one body for your time on earth, and I know so wildly and deeply, that loving and honour ‘her’ (or him) creates a far more beautiful and extraordinary time on planet earth than the opposite.

My wish for you is that you choose love today, is that you choose to honour your food today, and that you choose gratitude for your food today, and in the moments when you don’t you simply start again.

And I promise you – it’s worth it.

Love, Anna xoxoxo

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The discipline of letting go

Last week, I let go.

I let go of everything.

Sitting by the infinity pool looking at the infinite ocean feeling infinite love – I handed over ALL the B.S that has been holding me back because I’ve been letting it be centre stage for awhile.

I let go of fear around playing bigger (because playing bigger opens you up to bigger failure right? WRONG). I let it go.

I let go of the thought I actually was playing small (sense a theme here?) and realised I AM doing and being exactly what and who I am meant to be. So I let it go.

I let go of trying to figure it all out and accepted the fact that right here and now – all is as its meant to be. I had my breathe, my health, my happiness and realised a life of living in the present FEELS far more delicious than trying to figure out the future. I let it go.

I journaled and journaled and journaled and released that EVERYTHING is exactly as its meant to be as all my choices have lead me to this exact moment, and that exact moment was perfect.

MY job was just to keep expanding in to love and success and abundance (did I say love?) and inspire those around me to do the same.

Even the healer I see when I am in Bali got it. He tapped me in my heart space and said “ahhh, you have let go, you have realised that you finally can stop looking and start realising you’ve always had the answers” (there may have been some happy tears).

I have realised that all the things I focus on in my moments of doubt or uncertainty – like playing small or constantly thinking about what next what next (‘feelings around ‘not ever feeling stuck’) – were the exact things I was calling in to my life because I WAS focusing on them.

So to have truly let it all go, I can tell you that I honestly felt a clarity and lightness that I have never had before.

A TRUSTING – my soul letting me know ‘hey beautiful, finally you have let go and NOW we can have some fun, NOW we can unleash your true power and remember you never have to feel again the feelings that have been keeping you stuck”.

And that’s all great for me – but what about YOU?

What can YOU let go? What have you been focusing on in your life (consciously or subconcisouly) that energetically and physically has been holding you back.

Because I assure you, to let it go brings a grace and softness and lightness to your life like nothing else.

Trust that;

You are exactly who you are meant to be in this moment.

You are exactly where you are meant to be in this moment.

Once you accept that and let go of trying to CHANGE that – is when change actually comes.

So today – I wish you love and lightness as you let go of the things that have been consuming your thought and heart space – because I assure you, it feels really damn good.

An open letter to all women, you need to read this…

85%.

The number of women saying they ‘opt out of important life activities, such as trying out for a team or club, and engaging with family or loved ones, when they don’t feel good about the way they look.

7/10.

The number of girls with low body esteem who say they won’t be assertive in their opinion or stick to their decision if they aren’t happy with the way they look.

9/10.

The number of women who will stop themselves from eating or will otherwise put their health at risk.

8/10.

The number of both women and girls who feel some pressure to never make mistakes or show weakness.

I recently read these statistics in the Dove Global Beauty and Confidence Report and was reduced to tears. I have no doubt that you will all agree, that these statistics are just so not ok.

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In 2016, to hear that women are holding themselves back from loved ones or stopping themselves from eating is not ok.

To also hear we’re then raising a generation of younger girls who are loosing their voice, all because they don’t feel good about themselves … is not ok.

It’s especially not ok to hear that 8/10 women and girls alike think they have to be perfect, that they can’t make mistakes or heaven forbid show weakness.

I stand here today to that whilst I have a beating heart, I will not let these statistics get any worse.

And I get it.

It’s all good and well for me to sit at my computer and write-up statistics and say they’re not ok, but what am I actually going to DO about it.

Well here’s the thing.

I believe the best way to combat women self-esteem issues, is to be a woman with HIGH self-esteem.

I believe the best way to show women how to truly love themselves, ALL of themselves, even their self perceived flaws – is to be a woman who truly does love herself, ALL of herself, even all of her self perceived flaws.

And I do.

I believe the best way to show women they DO NOT have to be perfect and it’s ok to be vulnerable and show weakness when it comes up, is to be a woman who IS NOT perfect and who shows up in life vulnerably and bares her weaknesses.

And I hope that I do that well too.

You might think that I live a bold and out there public life. And you’d be right. I do. And maybe now for those that have ever questioned it might start to understand it’s for good reason.

Because I realise that I have a LOT of work to do in this world, and I can’t do it whilst shutting up, letting statistics of women’s self-worth and worthiness get worse and worse – all the while being too scared to speak up to piss someone off or be misunderstood by haters. Fuck. THAT.

I am a woman who has worked HARD on herself. Extremely hard on herself.

I am a woman who has accepted that that work will never be done though, and personal development and self-love is a daily practice. I am a woman who has recognised however being on that journey, I still need to love myself through the process, every step of the way.

I am a woman who has fallen in love with her broken parts. The pain parts. The weak parts of herself that instead of shutting off from the world, I SHARE with the world.

I am a woman who see’s her flaws as unique, not something that has to be ‘fixed’ constantly.

I am a woman who has fallen in love with her perfectly imperfect self – and has a VOICE about that.

I am a woman not part of the 85% statistic who opt out of important life activities.

I am a woman not part of the 7/10 girls who don’t voice their opinion because of low self-esteem.

I am absolutely not one of the 9/10 women who stop themselves from eating due to low body confidence.

And I am especially not one of the 8/10 women who think they have to be perfect and never show weakness.

And I am PROUD of that.

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I refuse to live in a world where women have such low self-esteem and confidence that they take themselves out of living their boldest, grandest and brightest life.

You do not have to fit a particular mold of beautiful ladies.

You do not have to be a certain size or colour or age to BE beautiful ladies.

Exactly who you are, exactly how you are, is exactly who you’re meant to be.

We have GOT to stop looking to Instagram, and Facebook and tv’s and magazines to tell us what we’re meant to look like, what clothes we should own and what we need to do to our face and body to make ourselves beautiful.

News flash.

You already ARE beautiful.

There is a quote by J.Iron Word I have on my desktop to refer to whenever I need a bit of self-love ass kicking, and it says;

“She didn’t need to be saved. She needed to be found

and appreciated for exactly who she was”.

Double News Flash.

YOU are the only person who can find yourself.

YOU are the only person who can appreciate you for exactly who YOU are.

You want to know the sexiest most beautiful thing in the world on a woman?? HAPPINESS – which leads to CONFIDENCE…which ultimately just leads to more HAPPINESS.

One thing I know for sure, is that self-esteem and self-confidence is not an external ‘thing’ that can be found, it wholly and fully comes from within.

And something else I know for sure – is no matter how low a self-esteem you have, or self-worth issues you have – I have been in that gut wrenching shitty hole too and climbed VERY far out of it, and purely stand here today FOR you as a lighthouse of possibility.

I also recognise that it’s not just going to come down to us individually to work on ourselves to grow our self-esteem and self-confidence muscle.

We as a society can absolutely do better.

It’s going to come from ALL of us. All of the time.

It’s going to come from us stopping putting ALL of the blame on media, like they’re some evil thing out to get us and rip us down at any chance they get (which is a wholeeeee other blog post on it’s own), and start realizing that media operate on supply and demand. If the demand for portrayal of perfect women and ‘perfect’ sizing wasn’t so huge, they wouldn’t push it on our televisions and in our magazines so much.

It’s going to come from men loving their girlfriends / partners / wives better.

And more importantly, girlfriends / partners and wives loving THEMSELVES better.

It’s going to come from daring acts of self-love so grand we can flip the word selfish on its head. Make selfish a GOOD thing. Make self-love a NECESSITY not a ‘I’ll get to it on the brink of breakdown or burn out”.

I get that this isn’t something that is just going to ‘switch’ over night. Of course not.

I also get that it’s not something ‘easily’ fixed – but I also don’t believe its hard.

Ladies. We need to start loving ourselves MORE and doubting ourselves LESS.

There is a whole lotta hope though and a big solution to this ‘problem’, and it came from my favourite sentence in the report which was this;

7/10 women and 8/10 girls report feeling more confident or positive when they invest time in caring for themselves, taking time to care for their minds, body and appearance.

So you see ladies, as I said above – we HAVE to start loving ourselves more, and I mean physically love ourselves more.

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I have yelled from the roof tops about self-care routines since I started blogging back in 2011, knowing it was in fact the very thing to have set me on a path of self-love and worth.

Darlings. It’s time to stop saying ‘I don’t have time’, between work schedules and kids, or just crazy schedules and other commitments, and start making it a priority in your every day.

There are no rules to self-love practices either. It can look like whatever it needs to look like for you.

A walk. Or maybe some meditating. Or maybe it’s Journaling or sunrise and sunset beach sprints. Maybe it’s sweaty gym sessions or reading an uplifting book with a hot cup of jo every morning. It could be non negotiable bed times so you start getting more sleep.

It could be dry body brushing with a podcast on or long hot baths no matter what with beautiful essential oils every single night.

You see ladies, when you fill your own cup up first, you CAN step out in the world a little…fuller.

When you start to look after yourself as a matter of priority – magic can happen in your life. You start to look after yourself even better. You start to love on yourself more. You start to take care of YOU. And when you take care of YOU, self-confidence naturally rises, which turns your self-esteem UP.

Here is the other huge thing though, and something I hope you can get behind in a big way. I don’t think it comes down to just us as individuals either ladies, out there in a world that does very often try to tell us to be a certain woman we are not. It’s to remember that we are a sisterhood. As Constance Hall so beautifully refers to us – we are all Queens. So I believe, the other singular most powerful thing we can do as women on the quest of finding and growing our self-esteem and self-confidence through self-love – is hold other women in our lives accountable.

Check in. Ask the question. Make a plan with your girlfriends closest to you and hold each other accountable. Don’t let your fellow goddess go another day or week or month feeling like she doesn’t get to have the confidence she deserves to be exactly who she believes she can be.

And please just know this. That no matter where you are in your journey in trying to find yourself, to love yourself, and to gain more self-confidence – I am over here, ALWAYS… cheering you on, having your back and being a stand for you.

Love Anna,

XO

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Dove Beauty Report and statistics found here: http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/new-dove-research-finds-beauty-pressures-up-and-women-and-girls-calling-for-change-583743391.html

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Corporate 9-5 Vs Network Marketing- A Former Skeptics Take

Hey everyone,  Its Morgan here!

Slight change of plans from the normal today. Its been some time since I posted on this blog, in fact, the last time was when I gave my account of our time in Amsterdam back in 2012!!  Anyway, Some recent events really got me thinking about this topic and prompted me to write this short post.  It started out as Facebook post and then the next thing I knew I had a couple of thousand words.  So I figured hey why not share it here?  I hope you enjoy it and find some value in it, i know it’s a little off topic from what you may to be use to but its something I’m really passionate about…… ENJOY!


Working from a café today I couldn’t help overhear a conversation going on behind me.   Some poor girl was being grilled in a job interview, to be fair she was doing a good job and holding her own.  She seemed bright and very bubbly, but sitting here listening to the language, the tone and general vibe of the convo made me feel a bit anxious.

One person trying so hard to Sell themselves  the other revelling in their self-perceived position of power.  Out comes the “Work Voice”, you know the one?  It’s similar to the one you put on as a kid when you’re answering the home telephone but you are in earshot of mum…….  “Hello Richards residence, Morgan Speaking!”  just the most fake thing you can think of.

The reason it made me feel so anxious though is because that was exactly how I felt working in corporate, going to corporate meetings and talking the corporate talk all day long.  Trust me, there is nothing more soul-destroying than working in a profession where you can’t really show up as yourself or say what you truly mean without fear of what your “boss” might think.  I would often think I wonder what would happen if I spoke honestly to my boss’s even for 30 seconds, how would they take it if gave them  an honest appraisal of their performance as a leader.   The answer being that most employers wouldn’t take it well and it would be reflected in my pay review and promotion prospects.

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I feel the same type of anxiety in airport lounges when high-flying harry big balls is sitting next me talking on the phone or talking to his staff.

Actually that just reminded me of a story.  A few weeks back Anna and I were waiting for a flight in Melbourne, we used our points to upgrade to business (we aren’t flashy dickheads, but when we can we upgrade).  Subsequently we were given access to the business lounge and we were sitting there on our laptops enjoying a red wine before our flight (Anna of course a Champagne) when a few moments later this guy in a suit comes in and sits just near us, entourage in tow.  This guy thought he was Harvey spectre (watch the show suits to understand that example) and he wanted everyone to know it.  Berating his staff for asking questions, talking down to them like they were dirt.  Not just quietly either, loudly, he didn’t just want the staff to know how important he was, he wanted everyone to in the room to.  I always try my best to be impeccable with my word whenever I can, not to judge people  but after listening to this guy for over an hour it was fairly safe to assume that this guy was, well, a massive dick.

I thought about John Maxwell’s 5 levels of leadership as I often do when I’m around this type of person. This guy was the definition of level 1-  TITLE.  People (his staff) only tolerated him because they believe they had no other choice because of his rank in the company.  But you know what I honestly felt? I honestly felt sorry for him, because one day his time and position of power will end and along with it his own self-worth.  When your own self-importance comes before developing others you can’t create legacy, once the power of your title is gone you are left with nothing.

But most of all I felt sorry for his staff, I knew that feeling of being made to feel second-rate by some A-hole on a power trip.

It made me wonder, why do people put up with that? Seriously, in any bar across any country in the world if one person spoke to another the same way as this guy did to his staff, fists would probably fly.  But because there is an exchange of time for money (that’s basically what a job is right?) we tolerate the worst people in world and we do this by choice?

I’m not saying that pursuing a traditional career is a bad idea, in fact I was speaking to a friend of ours the other night who has just landed his dream job in an incredible company.   He is super passionate and excited about the work he will be doing and the people he will be doing it with.

What I am saying however, is if you don’t love what you do, change it or at least takes steps to do something about it.

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Casual Friday AKA the day i left corporate and became a full-time Network Marketer

As I sit here in this café today listening to the girl being interviewed and reflecting on high flying harry big balls display in the lounge I found myself filled with so much gratitude for our chosen profession.  Anna and I are so fortunate to able to say that we love what we do now. Not only is it important to be our authentic selves, its critical for success.  We treat our team with respect and in turn we get it back in droves, but most importantly we treat people exactly the same when they enter our team, as when they are working in our team or if they decide to leave our team.  Yes network marketing isn’t perfect, and yes you still get the occasional knob but I ultimately have the say on whether or not I choose to work with them.  There are no high pressure interviews where you need to have a shiny CV full of qualifications and pre requisites that (lets face it) you probably lied about anyway.  It’s often said that it doesn’t matter if you have gone to Yale or come from Jail to have success in our profession.  Ultimately your success is measured (and paid on) the amount of people you help be successful and rise through the organisation, which is completely the opposite in the corporate world.

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Working from our local cafe in Fremantle

Now, I can already tell what some people will think as they read this “but morgan I had a friend who was involved in network marketing once and they were let down really badly”.  Which is a totally valid statement, yes in the past and even today people are let down by network marketing companies.  They are let down in the same way they are let down by bad restaurants, Taxi drivers who take the long route, publicly listed stock, airline companies, telephone companies, Investing money in the wrong shares,  mechanics and of course trades people and contractors who rip off their clients.  The worst by far are Plumbers! They show up late, they overcharge and not to mention the dreaded plumbers crack (what’s up with that?).  I remember a plumber charging me $1000 to fix my hot water system, I then found out from a friend a few months later it was an $180 job. The difference is 3 years later at 3am one morning, the toilet began overflowing. Now like most sane, rational people I didn’t throw my hands up in the air, tar all plumbing companies with the same brush and allow the turds to flow through my house.  I called any plumber that was available to come out and help fix the problem regardless of my past experience.

It frustrates me why people think that our profession and industry is somehow immune from the same type of stuff that happens in  any other industry?

Yes, unscrupulous companies come (and very quickly go), yes sometimes people with poor ethics find their way into our profession, but what profession doesn’t have the exact same problems?  If you pick any profession across any industry you will find the exact same thing, in the medical industry with dodgy doctors, in the legal system with corrupt judges and what about the people we trust to run our governments?  I’m not trying to make excuses for these companies, in fact I get as angry as the next person when people get let down by our industry, what I am trying to point out is that network marketing is just like any other industry.  There is the good and the bad.

Finding a good network marketing company is like finding a good plumber or mechanic.  Difficult, but not impossible, provided you know what to look for.  There is a whole swag of things to be mindful of that will help you cut through any BS, but that’s a whole other post for another time but its something I’m also really passionate about.

The common thing for many people is they seem to believe that if they purchase a product from a network marketing company they somehow are being duped or they are a sucker? Common sense time guys…….  If you pay for a membership at cost co and all you receive is a trolley full of groceries that you love every single month, are you being ripped off? If you are a member of a wine club and all you pay for and receive is a case of wine each month are you being taken for a ride? The answer of course is a NO!  Your membership allows you to purchase products at the best possible prices, you get products that meet your needs and you consume them on a regular basis.

Quality Network marketing companiess are no different! You find a product you love (MASSIVE HINT), make sure it has a money back guarantee (any decent company would back their own product, our company certainly does)  you pay a membership fee to receive the best possible price, you order the products and you consume them.  There never is an obligation to pursue the business (if there is run the other way), that’s because legitimate NWM companies MUST HAVE REAL CUSTOMERS in the exact same way that cost co does.

But for some reason when there is an opportunity to earn rebates and/or commissions by making referrals, peoples scepticism seeps in?  Like it sounds too good to be true?  The truth is, it’s not to be good to be true because it requires hard work, dedication and commitment just like anything where the rewards are high.  It’s no different to sharing a movie you love, a restaurant you had good service at or hotel that went above and beyond.  In fact most of us are doing it don’t even realise it!

Big companies like Apple and Samsung are already leveraging your networks, you just aren’t being paid for it.

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No thanks, Sounds like a pyramid scheme.

Network marketing has come of age, It’s no longer a question of viability or if it works, it does……. It’s the people who don’t.

The industry will continue to grow with or without you or me being a part of it, people will continue to buy quality products and distribute them to friends, families and total strangers.  My hope is that eventually common sense will prevail when it comes to the everyday person looking at our profession and even though it may not be for them, they understand that’s it is just another profession.  I’m not saying that’s its perfect, but if you hate working for knobs who treat you like dirt it’s a bloody good option.

Of course this is just an opinion post,  it’s up to the person reading this to make a decision on what they believe about network marketing. It may or may not be for you, but there is only one way to find out….

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Why I think there is MUCH more to life than you’re currently doing

Go to school. Get good grades. (Try to) qualify for university. Get a HECS debt. Get a job. Work hard your whole life. Keep up with the Joneses. Work harder. Take 4 weeks of holiday a year (if that). Get married. Have kids. Over leverage. Argue over money. Possibly divorce over said arguments over money. Retire old. THEN start living?

FUCK.THAT.

I can’t recall the exact moment in my life I always knew I was going to buck conventional thinking but I do know it happened quite young.

I vividly remember being in high school in Year 10 though having been a straight A student (a rebel with partying – but always a straight A student) and sitting with a course counsellor trying to work out “what I was going to do in my future” and thinking, how the hell do I know what I want to do with my future at just 15?? All teachers were encouraging me to do Tertiary exams in subjects like law, history, hard maths and high English – and I remembmer not just thinking, but TELLING them – I could think of nothing worse!!!! My heart was calling me in to the subjects that I figured I would actually use after school, like Tourism, Work Studies and believe it or not – cooking!!

I went home and chatted to mum. I told her I didn’t know what I wanted to do specifically (although I STILL was saying “I’m going to own a hotel” at this stage) – but I did know that I would always strive to do my best and I would be successful no matter what.

She told me tertiary education or not – even if all my friends did it and all my teachers encouraged me to do it because of my grades – she would support me 100% in whatever decision I did make and be proud of me regardless (best mum EVER right?)

I chose the non conventional route – a straight A intelligent kid bucked the trend of exams and stress at 16 and 17 years of age and went with non T.E.E subjects instead. I did things that my heart told me to do – Tourism (I had a love of travel very young it would seem), Work Studies, Dancing (I have always loved to dance and be creative), Craft, Cooking, English – NO MATHS (yep, I dropped maths year 11 and 12 – STILL think it’s the best decision I ever made), and work placememt – I wanted to get out in the big bad world and I wanted to do it young.

Years 11 & 12 passed and I excelled. Whilst all my friends were in tears and developing stomach ulcers (yep, a few kids in my high school were that stressed from exams they got very sick) I had the best 2 years of high school life. I still maintained straight A’s – got DUX of year 11 (for non tertiary) and actually got top student of Western Australia in Work Studies.

I finished high school and rebelled again. Whilst many if not most kids were applying for universities and TAFE’s – I was studying world maps and figuring out where I wanted to go and spend a gap year.

Again, my teachers were concerned – even my incredible Year Co-ordinator got involved and sat me down and told me the smartest thing I could do was go on to continue my studies.

I rebelled against that notion though. I knew I didn’t want to be a Dr or a Lawyer at this stage so what was the rush to go and kill my creativity so young in a uni or TAFE?

Fast forward to 18 years of age and taking off to the U.K with my best friend (thanks to a generous gift of a one way ticket from said best friend Najettes mum Lynne) and $300 dollars to my name – but with an adventurous spirit that had just began it’s life journey of living on purpose. I didn’t have a visa, nor a job but we DID have somewhere to stay – and the first week, Naj and I went bar to bar asking for a job. She was underage – HA, and I didn’t even have a visa – Double HA … but within 2 days, we landed our first job in a small Scottish country town in one of the local pubs.

That was a months and months long adventure I will never forget and it gave me my first taste of a) doing whatever it takes to look after myself and b) travel.

Coming home I got my first full time job in an amazing Accounting firm. I was 18 years old, living out of home by myself earning a whopping (I joke) $20,000 a year. That eternal pull of … this is NOT the way I want to live my entire life was starting to pull on me again however.

By 19, I felt like my vocabulary was not where I wanted it to be (true story) and I wanted to challenge myself again, so I took a SAT test to get in to Uni as a – get this – mature age student (at 19!! Haha) and successfully started my Bachelor of Commerce double majoring in Human Resource Management and Management, with a minor in Entrepreneurship at Murdoch University.

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The following 3 years I worked full time and studied full time and that is when I wound up in Federal Politics. I graduated being offered honours (fuckkk thattttttt I thought, MORE study?? FOR WHAT!!! – aka I politely and respectfully said ‘thank you Murdoch but noooo thank you) and continued my career in federal politics.

By societal standards. I had “made it”. I was 24 years of age, earning approx. $90,000 a year in Politics , I had finished high school successfully, graduated uni with a degree successfully, I was madly in to personal development ….

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But I still wasn’t fulfilled.

There was a MASSIVE in congruency between what I wanted to do (which I still couldn’t work out) and what I was doing.

I left politics to go pursue a career in the private sector – thinking maybe THIS was the thing. I didn’t take a pay cut (at least one thing was for sure I was young but I absolutely knew my worth – LEARN that lesson alone from this post and you’ll have success) as a Business Development Manager (BDM) in a Mining Services Company.

I’ll never forget my old (incredible) boss in federal politics though handing me a book on my last day wishing me all the best. I opened the book – “The 4 hour work week” – when I got home (little did he know I had read the book 3 years earlier at 21) and saw his lovely inscription.

There was lots of lovely well wishes – and then at the very bottom – 7 words which struck something inside of me that to this day, still give me Goosebumps.

“Go and find what you’re looking for” …

I realized that was the in-congruency – I was living the life I didn’t want to live. EVEN THOUGH I was successful by almost all of societal standards.

I was so not ok with the traditional 40 hours a week (but really it’s 50+), for 50 years, to retire at 70 then not even be well enough to truly enjoy life. Then die.

I was not ok with being a young couple who’s soul focus was to settle down, buy a house the bank ultimately owned anyway, get married, have kids… then argue about how stressed we were over money.

Again – to that I say fuck.that.

I spent a year in that role as BDM before I found some health products my body desperately needed from the stress I was under – that happened to be attached to a profession I had heard nothing about – network marketing – that I fell madly, deeply and passionately in love with.

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I won’t say the rest is history, as it’s not, I am only just getting started, but I won’t bore you with the story here as you can read about what happened next on that journey in this post.

What I will say is …

I found what I was looking for.

I found the vehicle that was going to get me out of the rat race of working my whole life to try to live in the moments I got given when approval from a boss was given.

I found the vehicle that was going to allow me financial freedom to choose if I did want to invest money in property, I could be able to ENJOY that property as I stay at home working on my business –not tied to a 9-5 office job.

I found the vehicle that allowed me to be location independent – the greatest gift of all I believe.

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This article isn’t about network marketing though. Far from it. It’s about waking you up to the fact that your own life doesn’t have to be the norm of working your entire life towards a goal that you maybe don’t even want.

What do I mean by that?

This.

Go to school. Get good grades. (Try to) qualify for university. Get a HECS debt. Get a job. Work hard your whole life. Keep up with the Joneses. Work harder. Take 4 weeks of holiday a year (if that). Get married. Have kids. Over leverage. Argue over money. Possibly divorce over said arguments over money. Retire old. THEN start living?

If that is what makes you happy, then AWESOME, do more of that – and do it with all the joy and gusto you can muster. And I sincerely am cheering you on.

But I can guarantee you, for most people, that isn’t at all what their heart desires and yet somewhere along the line, they’ve accepted that as ok, as the norm, like, it’s ok to work Monday to Friday 8am – 6pm wishing your life away for the weekends then being too tired to reallyyyy LIVE and pursue your passions on the weekend anyway.

NO WAY.

THAT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE YOUR NORMAL. NO ONE IS DESTINED FOR THAT LIFE IF THEY DON’T WANT IT TO BE.

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Jim Hightower once so brilliantly and wisely stated, “The opposite of courage is not cowardice, it’s conformity”. If you have happily but intentionally chosen a life of ‘just getting by’ and living to pay the bills and get a good job, own a nice home and work until you’re 70 – that’s totally ok, as long as you’re HAPPY and conscious about that decision. As long as you haven’t accidently chosen conformity.

If you have just unconsciously accepted this as normal though and you’re not happy then re evaluate – look at ways to live more in to the life you want and deserve and go out there and pursue THAT.

As I said, this post isn’t about network marketing – nor is it about quitting your job living off baked beans and failing forward in entrepreneurship. Because most people aren’t in fact cut out to be entrepreneurs or successful in building a biz in network marketing, I wish they were but it’d be remiss of me to say anything other than the truth.

It IS about finding out what you REALLY want to do in this life and aligning yourself to your passion and values however.

Maybe that might mean not driving in the car the bank owns to impress your mates to instead drive an older less expensive car to have some more money to put in the bank to get some savings to invest in something that can earn you passive income in years to come.

Maybe that might mean downsizing your house or not filling it with all the 2.0 things to keep up a facade when the bank is the one who again, really owns it anyway to be able to have more money left over at the end of every pay to start saving for the big 6 month Europe trip you really want to take.

Maybe it might mean dropping down to part time hours (IF you can afford that because you haven’t over leveraged yourself) to take 2 days off either end of the weekend to do what you LOVE for 4 days of the week instead of JUST the weekend. Hell, even dropping down to 4 days of work to have 3 days including the weekend. (It IS Possible – anything is possible).

Or maybe it DOES mean network marketing or become an entrepreneur is something you need to look at to earn extra money to pursue the adventures of life that set your soul most on fire.

As the amazing Jack Delosa says – Your life’s work is a representation of who you are.

You weren’t born to work in a job that doesn’t totally light you up, be in debt most of your life, retire old – and die with a life unlived still inside of you.

The #1 regret of the dying is … and I quote;

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”.

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Just let that sink in for a minute. Or 5.

The #1 regret of the dying is to have lived a life TRUE to themselves …

I live by this principle personally (it’s why I pursued network marketing in my extraordinary company with such gusto and passion) – and recently when talking to a successful gentleman in a bar (I thought I recognized him from somewhere so stopped him) in his late 50’s when I asked what excited him he looked at me like I had just punched him in the face – with total and utter shock.

Here was a wildly successful civil engineer being asked by this loud fun loving random 28 year old woman who he had just met “what excited him” – but the saddest part … was the shocked look was because he said no one had ever asked him that before.

His wife came over and I brought her up to speed on Morgan and I’s and her husbands conversation and she said “nothing excites him, he loves his work” –

Turns out she couldn’t have been more wrong. He looked me dead in the eye, and told me “Travel. I want to travel. I want nothing more than to pack a suitcase and go and explore the world.” Now it was the wife’s turn to look like someone had slapped her in the face.

I told him he should go do that. He told me he couldn’t. I asked him why… he told me and I quote this verbatim..

“ I can’t because we need the money – we have a beautiful house in the best suburb that I never even get to enjoy because I work so damn hard, our 2 kids are in private school education because well, that’s the suburb we live in and my wife wanted them too, we have to have friends over on the weekends and only eat the best steak to keep up with the joneses and both drive nice cars”

He told me it looks like he’ll have to do that for the rest of his life, and I am quoting here – “then be lucky enough to die” … be LUCKY enough to die. He is so engrained in the rat race that he is literally living to die. A man who again by societal standards would be one of the most successful around – married for 20+ years, 2 educated children, great house, nice cars, wildly successful career – is living to die.

That is obviously an extreme case – but don’t be so naïve to believe that you wont work yourself in to the same position if you keep living the life that others expect of you – your family, boss, partner, society – instead of living the life you wish you had the COURAGE to live.

I’m not here to tell you what to do (ever), or even give you steps today like “5 steps to living a life you wish you had the courage to” .. No. It goes much deeper than that and no 5 steps is going to get you anywhere.

I am merely here to challenge you to take a look in to your life right now (I mean literally, right now) and ask yourself is this the life you truly want to be living or is this one that has happened by blind autopilot because you think it’s what you SHOULD do (get the house, cars, have the kids – and work until you die). Because I’m just here to also tell you it doesn’t HAVE to be that way.

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I’m an ambassador for happiness and believe part of my purpose in life is to be here to shake up mediocrity and help people realise they’re destined for greatness, even if that greatness for you looks like more travel, more purposeful living and less arguments in a household due to less financial pressure.

In this moment, whether you’re on the train coming to or from work, or at your desk at work, or maybe scrolling reading this on your phone over the weekend – just take an honest look at your life right now – and do a stock take on if it’s where you want to be. If it’s not, that’s ok, the most powerful way to live is to live consciously, so at the very least you have taken the first steps towards living with more awareness.

Now I want you to have a think about where you would HONESTLY love to be in 5 years time.

Travelling more?

Maybe with a kid or a few kids but not having to stress over money.

Mortgage free?

Working from a laptop around the world?

Having your own business?

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Ok good – thinking?? If you DON’T know where you specifically want to be, just think about what would be something you would love to DO … go and spend 3 months in Rome learning to cook and speak the language? Or maybe take the train route through the Alaskan mountains? Or maybe it’s just to cut down to 3 days of work a week.

Got it? If you haven’t stop. Right now. Look away, even just for a few minutes and THINK. You do not have to be ok or accept the life you already have. It’s bullshit and telling if you unconsciously or consciously have but don’t believe you can still drastically change it – because you CAN.

Have you got a picture now?

Ok great. So you have even a slight idea of what we want to be doing in 5 years or at least something you would love to do as a smaller aspect of our life.

NOW … I want you to think if what you’re doing today, like right now, look around you THIS SECOND – is going to get you closer to that.

Are you not over leveraged struggling week to week?

Are you not stuck in a job that you hate wishing you weren’t there?

Are you making healthy choices to get your body ready for children?

If the answer is no, what you’re doing today or this week, or for the next month isn’t going to get you closer to where you want to be in 5 years then CHANGE WHAT YOU’RE DOING.

I love the quote – you are not a tree –MOVE.

Life is yours – to live as loudly and brightly and wildly and spontaneously and magically and divinely and beautifully and successfully and gloriously as you please.

It’s just a choice – but it’s a series of lots of little choices that you are making every single day that leads you to your future – and it’s a series of lots of little choices you have made to have lead you to where you are now. (That might have hit you somewhere and hurt but guess what, the truth is always going to piss you off before it sets you free).

So choose better. Be conscious of your decisions from today forward and just remember – you weren’t born to wait to die, living a life of mediocrity in the meantime complying to societal norms.

You get to choose your life – and I hope today, you start to choose better.

As always, I am cheering you on the loudest.

Anna xo

Tuning in to your soul; to live on purpose

It’s 7:30am here in beautiful Bali and I am currently sitting over looking the infinity pool that looks out over the ocean here at our divine hotel. There are no other souls in sight, and why would there be, I think I’m the only weirdo who still loves waking up really early on ‘holidays’.

It’s just me, my book, my gratitude journal, my conscious creating journal, my laptop and the energy of total and utter fulfillment.

I came to Bali to work by the infinity pool – Morgan and I have created a life for ourselves where we are location independent so can just pack up and go work from a pool instead of our home office whenever we feel like it and we did just that the last week – but I also had a deep desire to find a better groove and rhythm with my schedule. And I knew it would take a trip to Bali to ground and centre in to it.

Back on May 23rd 2011 I pressed publish on my very first post on my very first blog I created; lifesshinyprettythings. Back then no one really knew what a blog was, in fact most people absolutely didn’t know what they were and even more people didn’t do it. Blogs were big in the U.S but very few Aussie girls were creating spaces to share their daily musings online.

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I loved the idea of it though, I was a young girl of 23 trying to find her mark in the world and was going through such massive transformation I wanted a space to share all of that – who I was, where I was headed, and the journey along the way. I also loved to write, ever since I was little I have loved to write, so it was like combining a sincere passion of mine with an awesome idea – and lifesshinyprettythings was born.

Every single day forever more, I came home from my full time corporate career, and spent every night in my zen den, writing for my online space.

It literally became the thing that kept me up late and got me up early and my love of writing only deepened. I was even viewing the world through new lenses as being an almost daily poster (aka, sharing one post a day) meant I needed to go through new experiences or emotions to share congruently and authentically.

Over time and love and sweat, I accrued a beautiful organic following of like minded women who too loved what I loved and resonated with what I shared.

It was thanks to that blog I knew that corporate REALLY wasn’t for me – I used to get so passionate about writing and wanting to grow that to videos, courses – whatever I could to empower women as I found empowerment through finding my own voice.

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March 2013, so almost 2 years after starting the blog, I found network marketing through the worlds BEST company. I said a big excited yes to nutritional cleansing and everything that came with that and CANNON BALLED in to the business side of the company. Why? Because after years of blogging and knowing corporate wasn’t for me, I knew I had found the very vehicle that could allow more time AND financial freedom in my life.

Cannon balling in to something and giving it your absolute all – all of my spare time, waking moments, love and attention… other things in my life had to be put aside; and writing daily for the blog was one of them. And you know what, it had to happen. I had finally found the exact thing that was actually going to give me the time and financial freedom Morgan and I were so desperately looking for in our life, and with all great success stories, it had to take, and did take sacrifice.

I didn’t neglect it entirely of course, you can’t ignore your passion entirely after all, I even did the huge job of re branding my little ole space of lifesshinyprettythings to the new annaandmorgan dot com site that I pour my time and attention in to today.

Here is the thing though, for the last 3 years, I have built my business, and for at the very least 1 of those years, I have had the eternal tug of wanting to go back to writing and posting much more frequently, but I always had an excuse.

That I should be doing a call instead.

That I shouldn’t start my day with writing (when I’m most in my creative energy) because that is when I should be doing biz emails or biz ‘things’.

That I shouldn’t do something that makes me feel so GOOD when I am not where I want to be with our business goals yet.

That I don’t have the time.

These are just some – I could probably actually write a book on excuses as to why I hadn’t gone back to my daily writing practice.

But there it was still. That eternal tug at my soul, write Anna, write.

I started to talk to Morgan about it. Like I was almost seeking approval.

I told him I wanted to go back to writing again, and he told me I should. I told him though that my writing would have to be in the morning, when I normally do a lot of my big impact biz stuff and that he would have to step up – and he said he would. He also reminded me that there was another 10 hours of my day (more even) that I could hit the biz stuff in after I had filled my cup first with writing.

I said ok.

So here I sit, at 7:30am in the morning, poolside in Bali, flexing my writing muscle again – declaring I’m back. That is the thing as well, if I am accountable to you again, whoever this is, taking the time out of your busy crazy day to read this little space of the internet – then I hold myself extremely accountable.

And guess what?

It feels so.fucking.good.

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And that’s the thing about following the eternal tug on your soul – following what your soul is asking of you (for me, that was to write), feels GOOD, and good feelings put you in flow, and being in flow, leads to an incredibly beautiful and divinely inspired life.

This is just my story. I want to know yours though. The greatest story yet to be told is always your own but I hope if you learned anything for my own, its that you have to start listening to your soul again (it’s not woo woo, it’s the same as if I wrote trust your gut, or listen intuitively to what your body or mind is asking for).

What is it in your own life you have kept putting off because you’ve been too busy, or because it feels GOOD which makes you feel guilty?

Is it making sure you have a bath husband / kid and phone free every single night?

Is it privately journaling about a new journey you’re on?

Is it taking a candle making course?

Is it colouring in with really loud music when you get home from work?

I don’t know what your own soul / intuition / gut instinct is telling you to do, but I know you’re ignoring it, and I know listening to mine and getting back to the thing I love makes me incredibly happy, and it will for you too.

We have one go at this particular life darling heart – and if we don’t do the things we love on a daily basis then we just aren’t doing this life thing right.

So today, I dare you to follow your gut, listen to your intuition, tune in to your soul, and do the thing that its asking for most.

I promise you – you won’t regret it.

Anna

 

Love will change the world

There has been a topic that has been swelling in my heart and soul for many many moons now, a thought, an energy, an overwhelming emotion that I feel needs to be attempted, honoured even, by being put pen to paper.

Sometimes, this energy truly, fully, completely overwhelms me. So deeply. So, so deeply it engulfs all of my being and the only way to get through it is to give in to it and allow the emotion to take me on it’s ride.

I’m talking about ….

Love.

L.o.v.e. The four letter word that holds so much meaning it is totally inconceivable, and yet, is so wildly misunderstood. You see, I believe, when we say love, there is a fundamental flaw that occurs, we, as the human race, instantly relate it to 1 of only 2 things. The first, being a romantic kind of love. A marriage, a heartbreak, a crush – the kind of love that keeps you up at night and has you looking at your phone every few moments when you’re waiting on a call back. That has you confused and angry or head over heels and giddy all over. The second, being an endearing kind of love, a love that can only be felt for blood relatives or friends that are family you choose, one that you may primarily have for those closest to you.

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But, what if I told you there is a 3rd and 4th kind of love that is so pivotal to our evolution and growth, so fundamental to our humanness, without it we are floating through life lost. In fact, what I truly believe, is that this kind of love, this 3rd and 4ht tier of love, are the missing pieces in the happiness of living. So what kind of love am I talking about?

Love of self .. and;

Love of humanity – love of one another

What if I also told you however, that without love of self, there simply could not be love of humanity. So to have one, one must endeavor to have the other.

You see, Love, to me, is the beginning, it is the middle and it truly, fully, deeply is the end. It is how we begun, and absolutely what we go back to when this physical world is all over.

I sometimes believe there are no words for it, and yet at the same time believe in fact, that it would take every single word in the English dictionary to sum it up entirely.

I believe love is the purpose, the end game, the meaning of it all.

No matter how I look at it though and how deeply I try to understand it, what I always come back to is that we all come from this power.

Power? I hear you echo back sub consciously? Yes, power. There is one thing I know about love deep to my core that nothing and no one can tell me otherwise.

Love, is the one thing that can demand change for the best, heal all pains, find the good and pure in the bad and can unite a nation. And yet so, so much more than that, love can change the world.

Did you feel that?

Change. The. World.

And it would be my honour to let you in on Love’s biggest secret. You can do all of that; demand change for the best, heal all pains, find the good and pure in the bad and unite a nation – but more than that, CHANGE THE WORLD.

By first; loving yourself.

And secondly; loving all of humanity.

If I could truly make you understand these two things alone I truly believe I would have lived in to my purpose. In saying that though, I would never ask of you to understand what I am not trying to learn and grow through myself, and what I believe is that this crazy love thing is something we should all grow through together.

So if I may, it would be an honour to share with you the secrets on how I believe you can profoundly live in to the to these kind of loves yourself.

Be selfish with your love.

I hear the rebuttal already. “Hang on Anna, you just told us to love ourselves and all of humanity and in the same breathe you’re telling us to be selfish with our love, that makes no sense at all.” Well in fact, it makes complete sense.

Why?

Because put in its most simplest of forms; you cannot give from an empty cup.

You cannot give love if you aren’t full of love first.

I have always loved the analogy by Wayne Dyer about the orange. The story goes he took an orange in to one of his lectures he was giving and asked a man in the front row what would come out of the orange if he squeezed it. “Orange juice of course” the man replied. “So apple juice wouldn’t come out of this orange if I squeezed it?” “Of course not! It’s an organge so It’s orange juice inside” the man replied.

To which Dyer replied “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”

So I ask – what’s inside of you?

People want to go out every day in their lives and love their husbands or wives or children or others or even themselves and yet inside of them is stress, hurt and bitterness. Just understand, that whatever is inside of you will come out.

THAT is what is meant by fill your own cup first. Be selish with your love and give it to yourself first – why? Because then when it comes time to love others, to go out in to the world every day and interact with others, if your so full of love it’s the very thing that will come out in every word, in every smile and in every interaction.

For years and years now I have had a morning ritual that see’s me love myself first through acts of self love. Self love looks different to everyone, but to me it’s about putting my own oxygen mask on first. So I meditate, I go to the gym, I write out my gratitudes and I dry body brush and coconut oil my skin.

So many people want to impact the world in a meaningful and loving way but can’t even impact their OWN world in a meaningful and loving way because their cup is empty.

So what do I mean by selfish and how can you start being more selfish?

Well, to love yourself, fully and completely you have to develop some really strong self love or self care routines, which means focusing on YOU and you alone for parts of your day, everyday. I’m talking non negotiable treat these routines like they’re a million dollars in a suitcase kinda serious. And here is where I want to flip the stereotype on the word selfish as negative and turn it in to a positive one.

Filling your love tank and taking care of yourself through self love routines is the most divine and positive selfish thing you can ever do in this world. Because when you step out to do the work you are meant to do in this world, you have a full tank, or full cup to stay with that analogy to give from.

Taking care of myself first, every single day – fills my cup more than I can say, my cup overflows. As I explained above, I feel energized, I feel calm, I feel happy, I feel loved – by me – which is critical in the love equation. So when I am then going out in the world and having my daily interactions be that in email, text, person, social media – I am pouring love and greatness in to others from a full place.

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To be a phenomenal mother, father, sister, brother, daughter, son, friend, auntie, uncle, grandfather, grandmother – whatever titles you are blessed to have in your life, you have to take care of you first, to love yourself first – before you can go and give love to others.

Got it? Are you ready to start being more selfish with your love and fillng your cup first? Good.

Well next I need you to …..

Know you are worthy beyond your wildest imagination.

Self worth. Two words that are talked about more often than not, and feature in every personal development book ever written, and yet…and yet is still such a huge issue so many people deal with today.

I personally think there is still such a lack of self worth because people give up on themselves FAR too easily, its like they start off with the very best of intentions and it’s going great for the first few days or week or maybe even month, then their first challenge happens where they need to step in to their feelings of self worth they’ve been working on – but instead the challenge feels too great so they give up.

YOU are the greatest masterpiece you can ever work on. YOU are also the most important person you can ever get to understand and love.

You cannot love until you love yourself.

You cannot give advice until you take your own advice.

And you cannot tell your children or friends they are worthy if you yourself don’t believe you are worthy. Fact.

There is a quote that I love more than anything and it goes; “I can’t hear what you say because your actions are so loud”.

When I tell my 4 year old niece that she is worthy, and beautiful and deserving of every good thing in this universe – I know she receives that message on a message far deeper than what she can hear. Why? Because I believe it about myself. I would never tell a child something that I don’t believe and live in to myself. Does that strike a nerve with you? Good. If that’s where I have to pull on your chords to get you to understand just how critical this piece is then so be it.

I see people do it all the time. Tell their friends and loved ones how magnificent they are, how beautiful they are or how worthy they are – and then yet shrink away and not be able to receive it if they get told the same things.

No one hears you if your actions aren’t in alignment with what you say.

Try this on for size…next time someone tells you how amazing you are, or loved you are, or how grateful they are for you…. Say THANK YOU. Without saying “oh no no”. Just receive it. Let it sit on you and sink right to your cells.

I adore being able to tell my niece and every beautiful person in my life how worthy they are and how they can be and do and have anything they want in this universe – because I know on a cellular level they believe me because I believe it about myself.

I also want you to try these on for size. I want you to say these out aloud for me – and if you’re at your desk at work, I want you to just mouth them out for now, or read them in your head – but when you get home and then every day for at LEAST a month, I want you to read these out to yourself ALOUD in the mirror – staring YOURSELF straight in the eyes.

I am worthy of love.

I am beautiful in my own uniquely divine way.

I am magnificent in every way.

I am worthy to receive love and give love and be love.

I am the best {mother, father, sister, brother, husband, wife}

How does that feel? Does it feel like they’re not true? If you don’t feel anything less than TRUTH when you look yourself in the eye and say these things, you have a lot of work to do on your worthiness, but the good news is I’m here for the long haul to help with that.

When I was at Oprah she said something that I immediately scribbled down, it was; “Happiness is a spiritual discipline”. I resonated so hard because of the word discipline. Happiness TAKES WORK. And some people just aren’t willing to put in the work even though it’s the best work they could ever do in their life.

I truly believe, the same goes for self worth however.

Self worth is a spiritual discipline.

I assure you, back when I needed alcohol for confidence and would take ecstasy at festivals or on weekends I wasn’t waking up like “I am worthy and I am loved” .. quite the opposite. But I recognized that just like anything in life, this self worth thing might take some work, but the work would be worthwhile.

So commit today – that although it will take work, every single day, and although some days you aren’t going to feel like working on your self worth, or you aren’t going to believe a word you say to yourself, and although you may want to quit on yourself 100000 times – that you won’t.

That you will work on your self worth as a spiritual discipline so you can fully grasp that you, you magnificent human being blessed to be walking this physical planet were born for greatness and are worthy and loved beyond your wildest imagination.

Ok so we have now addressed two of the most major things I believe are critical to loving oneself to then be able to go out in the world as a beacon for love and light and all things good. But there is still one more area of love I want to talk about, and that is ….

Love every person you meet.

Anna, that is impossible I hear you say. “There are ASSHOLES out there and narcissists and terrorists and just plain dicks.” I hear you continue to say.

Yes. I say. There are. But isn’t it funny that the ones who probably are in that position in the first place are there because they are missing the one thing in their life that everybody needs the most – Love. And not just love from others, sincere love from themselves.

Don’t get this advice wrong with saying “be everybody’s best friend” .. that isn’t what I’m saying at all. Although if you want to run out there and adopt every person that doesn’t align with you or your values at all knock yourself out.

What I am saying is they can be assholes or rude or narissicistic or whatever else is out of alignment with who you are and what you believe makes a good person but LOVE THEM ANYWAY.

This is going to be hard to do if you yourself do not go out and work on the first two core things I mentioned first though, be selfish with your love (aka love yourself first) and; know how worthy and amazing you are.

But doesn’t it make sense that if you are so full of love yourself and you have such a firm grasp on how worthy you are – so essentially being full of both love and self worth that is what will come out of you anyway? Remember the orange analogy?

Of course it does.

I want to remind you again. Loving everyone, even the ones who you may struggle to love doesn’t mean you have to be their best friend – but you can show respect, decency and love to all human beings, you just can.

So what do I mean by love all of humanity. It means I want you to see the connectedness of us all. And to pour love in every interaction you have.

In my morning meditations before I end it, everyday, I cover the earth in the biggest ball of love that is humanly possible. I feel it reach from inside of me right around the entire globe. I don’t care if you’re blowing up buildings in a country or you were just nasty to your lover – you deserve love, in fact you probably need it the most.

I just want you to see that whatever is inside of people is what comes out – so the more people who fill themselves with love and then can spread love wherever they go – the more peaceful and beautiful this world will be.

I said at the start of all this, that Love, is the one thing that can demand change for the best, heal all pains, find the good and pure in the bad, unite a nation, and even can change the world.

THAT is how – because when you change YOUR world, you change the life of your family. And when you change the life of your family, they go out and impact people at their own schools, or workplaces, or associations and so ultimately you are then changing your whole community for the better. Once you change a whole community, and others are seeing the connectedness of our humanness – you start to change your nation – to the point where you CAN and will change the world.

But….

It all starts with YOU.

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What I have shared with you today isn’t ground shaking revolutionary stuff – it’s knowledge you have had within you the whole time. You know that you are worthy of love – giving love, receiving love, being love, sometimes we just need reminding, and I hope this was the reminder you needed.

All I ask is that you stop putting off these exercises you can do above for a ‘better day’ or ‘Monday’ or ‘when you feel more ready’ or worse still .. ‘have more time’ – the world is calling you in to action as of right now, it needs you to step in to your capacity to love more than ever and you have everything you need right here, right now.

So just begin. Today. And don’t stop until your cup is so full every interaction you have is fuelled with, and by love.

And remember – that the world is depending on you to change your world to in turn change THE world. And it starts and ends with YOU.

It’s all up to you and you are SO worthy of living a life of heart centred love.

Cheering you on the loudest and sending you oceans of my own love as you start TODAY on this journey.

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It’s ok to change

“Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending – to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how the story ends” – Brene Brown.

Before & After

As all beautiful synchronicities go, as I landed in beautiful Bali on Tuesday night, Morgan and I were laughing and reminiscing over our very first Bali trip back in 2008 and how fast forwarding 7 years, just how much we have both completely transformed our lives.

Remembering the exact girl I was, I had to go back and find the photos from that time – you get to meet her now as the girl in the left of that photo.

I was riddled with anxiety, carrying extra kgs from a toxic lifestyle, and although there are thousands of fond memories from every aspect of my life, even the bad – I can say that the bad feelings I used to feel and the lack of worthiness I shouldered far exceeded the good feelings I had and worthiness I so sought.

The story most know today is I hit my breaking point of knowing something had to change.

So I did.

You know that quote that says: “actually, I just woke up one day and decided that I didn’t want to feel that way anymore or ever again. So I changed….just like that”

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That was me.

I went on my major journey of self discovery and started to work out who I was. Book by book by book. Meditation by meditation by meditaion. Gratitude by gratitude by gratitude by gratitude. Beautiful friend, by beautiful friend, by beautiful friend. Gym session by gym session by gym session.

I discovered, rather profoundly that…

I wasn’t the ecstasy on weekends.

Or the alcohol at parties to give me confidence.

Or saying the wrong thing to the wrong person to fit in.

I wasn’t the bitching or the gossiping or the negativity.

I wasn’t my feelings of hopelessness.

Nor was I the crippling anxiety from suppressing who I WAS.

My soul started to rumble with the truth …. The truth of who I WAS. And I went on my journey to find that out. I know this doesn’t confuse you either – you know exactly what I’m talking about, because you have felt it too. The whisper or loud knocking on your soul to step in to more of the person you truly are and leave behind all the mess and confusion.

The more I tapped in to my true self, the more I allowed my personality to come through, the more I didn’t say the things I didn’t want to and DID say the things I wanted to – finding my voice, the more I surrounded myself with positive people and the more I read books that uplifted my soul – I found my truth.

And the truth was simple.

That I had a spirit that was pure divinity – just like every other beautiful human on the planet.

That I had all the confidence I needed by simply being my (loud) authentic self.

That I could never say the wrong thing to the right person and that the key was surrounding myself with the right people – in every way, every day.

That I was love. That I could give love, receive love, speak love, act in love and be consumed by love.

That my personality was perfect the way it was when I was most being myself and I didn’t have to say or be or do anything that was out of alignment with that to appease anyone else.

The truth was that I was worthy.

The truth was I didn’t need to be validated by anyone else – but me.

And my life changed.

I became the girl you now see in the right of that photo.

Here is what I need people to most get right to their soul however.

It’s that you’re allowed to change.

Your allowed to have gotten so completely lost and off track and done stupid things and said stupid things and want to change.

You can have been the crazy loud fighting girl – and want to become the softer, more loving girl that is inspired by positivity.

You can have always been the quiet reserved one but really had this loud eccentric spirit who is sick of being squashed and ready to bust out. Bust her out I say.

You can have been a wild corporate workaholic (and no doubt be miserable) and actually re birth yourself as the woman who has always been inside who is a hippie loving yogi who wants to run away to Nepal and write a book or become a nude model.

I don’t know your truth. I don’t need to know your truth. I just need YOU to know your truth and I need you to start to un cover it, step in to it and powerfully live it out.

And NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO TELL YOU OTHERWISE. NO ONE can stop you in to becoming the person you were born to be.

No one.

People will try though. Believe me, they will try. They will tell you that “this isn’t you, where has she come from? You are the crazy one remember, you think youre too good for us now do you?” They will say it to your face some days and other days they will tell everyone but you to try to keep you in the box and confines of what they were comfortable with you being.

But don’t let them stop you on your quest for your truth.

You have a spirit inside of you bursting to live authentically. Gently knocking, sometimes loudly nudging….everyday …. I know you feel it and I know you have heard it, because I did too. And I listened.

And don’t think that trying to step in to your truth will be easy or come without growing pains.

I was bullied. Constantly.

I was attacked with words, belitted, cut down and cut out from peoples lives (you know, the ones who still wanted me to be an asshole and feel shit about myself who should never have been in my life to begin with).

But none of that mattered anymore – because I knew who I was and meeting that girl, this woman I am today – the one who has a voice and loves herself and knows exactly who she is – that excited me more than I can ever explain and it kept me hungry on my quest to bring her out.

Find your hunger.

Go on your fucking quest for truth – it doesn’t need to be scary or extreme either. You DO need to begin it though.

Don’t fear this change. Honour and be excited by it.

LISTEN to the gentle calls (or maybe it’s more of a loud knocking) that you have ignored for far too long.

Understand that you were created and you are here to be you, exactly as you are and wildly authentic.

I listened and you can see your journey in colour before your very eyes. I went from not caring about my health at all (I literally thought it was ‘cool’ to love shit food and drink my weekends away) to having health as my absolute #1 priority and having one of my greatest passions as fitness. IMAGINE if I had of listened to even one person when I went on this quest who said “who do you think you are you, you are absolutely not this person” – well no actually, it’s exactly who I am.

Tune in. It’s all I’m asking. You have a truth inside of you that is busting to come out and you can’t be scared of it anymore. IT’s your JOB to live your brightest most authentic life, and your spirit can’t wait a day longer.

And as the beautiful insightful Brene Brown says..

Your job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending – to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how the story ends”

How will YOU choose your story to end?

I hope it’s bold. I hope its authentic and I hope its in bright colour.

Are you living a life of TRUE Freedom?

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Freedom. 7 little letters forming a word that can mean so much to some and conjure so much emotion in others. Here where I sit, I could never know what that word means to you or what kind of emotion it stirs, and maybe, hey maybe it conjures no emotion for you, but if I may, I would love to share here what it means to me – and I hope you might get something out of this too.

I believe Freedom to be exactly what it has always intended to be – the power or right to act, speak or think as one wants.

Let’s go a little deeper on that though.

To me, the SINGLE HANDED most free’ing ‘thing’ in the world you can EVER gift yourself is not caring what other people think about you. Letting it ALL go. Knowing that their perception and opinion is just that, THEIR’S and it’s shaped by their own life experiences and beliefs and values. And that’s ok. My favourite quote is “it’s their stuff, not yours”.

I see it everyday. In every way. People desperate to speak up, to act out, to have a voice, to laugh loudly, to share a positive message – and yet they are so frozen in fear of what other people might think or say or how they might be perceived, they stop themselves. They stay silent. They muffle the laugh. They choose to not spread a message dying to come out.

You have to understand this though and understand it well, if you are one of the extremely lucky ones to live in a free country with free speech – to silence yourself is a heartbreaking choice.
Some of you may be thinking, who am I to bring this truth to you, and I SHARE this truth because I have lived on both sides. Giving away my freedom and now reclaiming it back and knowing I have the power and right to act, speak and think as I want.

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I remember it well. I was 23 and I really started to ‘change’. I didn’t want to have all my conversations with my friends revolve around other people anymore. I didn’t want to be so negative and anxious all the time and so I started to change. I read more books and went on a huge journey of personal development. I started to become who I wanted more to be – positive, happy, I wanted to share the inspiring quote on facebook with the most loving of intentions, I wanted to share the journey I was on.

Like all people will experience many times in their life though, I had people in my networks that really didn’t like I was changing. So they would be extra negative and berate if I tried to be positive.

They tried to take away my freedom and right to act, speak and think as I wanted too.

Luckily I never listened, for long. Initially, it hurt, I got angry and upset and almost let them stop me for a whole…hour. And then Morgan my amazing husband clearly with much more wisdom and insight than me said “are you really going to let these negative opinions dictate your future – GO AND BE SUCCESSFUL REGARDLESS”. So, I stopped caring what they thought of me, I realized it was none of my business, it was THEIR stuff, not mine and finally took those steps for the first time in my life, it was the greatest gift I could have ever given myself. It was the very definition of freedom to me. I had never felt more free.

I know if I had of cared what other people thought of me I would never, ever, ever be where I am today. No way, no how.

And it didn’t just happen when I was younger either. At 25 I joined a network marketing company and wanted to get my health back on track with their world class nutritional cleansing products.

I was so excited. I was ready to grow again, to try something new, to be positive and make an impact. But again, people in my networks didn’t like that I had chosen something so, so different.

They didn’t like that I was again, changing – which you HAVE to understand is incredibly crazy when it has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else but yourself when you ARE going through a change in your life.

I was told I was crazy, an idiot, I was questioned by girlfriends who thought it was all a façade saying, ‘as if you’re really that grateful and happy Anna’ – it was like they needed me to actually not be getting ahead and to stay stuck where I was. I lost friends over it, their doing, not mine. I was mocked, bullied viciously and publicly vilified.

All because I chose to again make a choice to better myself and move myself forward.

These people, tried with all they had to take away my power and right to act, speak and think as I wanted to – they tried to take away the very definition of Freedom, in a free country, with free speech.

And guess what I did? I again didn’t listen. I didn’t care for 1 second about their opinions. By this stage in life I had learnt that unless you are living the life I want to lead, of love and happiness, of contribution and making something of yourself – I wasn’t ever going to listen to your opinions and I certainly wasn’t going to care what you thought of me whilst I set out to live my own life.

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Paying zero attention to the opinion and judgement of others is ALWAYS done in a loving intention as well, it’s never, ever a “I don’t give a f what you think” .. ever. It’s a “I love you for where you’re at and what you think of me has no bearing on who I am or how I will live my life” – the greatest thing of all now though is I don’t even have to actually say that now, because to defend an opinion or judgement of someone is to give it energy, and to give it energy is unnecessary when you can continue to just go out and keep living your life of love and adventure.

Did it take me a long time to get to that stage? Yes of course, it is absolutely a muscle you have to flex and build and truthfully, there are still fleeting moments I of COURSE slip up (we are all human after all living a beautiful human experience).

The KEY to being ok with not worrying about what people think though is surmised beautifully in this quote – “in order to love who you are, you can not hate the experiences that shaped you”.

I don’t run or hide from my past – so NO ONE has power over me.

WHY on EARTH should you be ashamed or embarrassed or hide from what you did when you were failing forward (I still am and always will be), when we do that we hand over ALL of our power and of course get affected by what people think or say about us.

The moment you can honour every part of your past, good and bad, and be ok with it is the moment you start reclaiming some of your power.

Who you were back then doesn’t have to have any affect on who you are becoming or who you WANT to be.

So I want you to think about this, where in your life are you stopping yourself from saying what you really feel? Or doing what you really want? All from fear of what other people might think or say.

I have some news for you and I want you to really be ready to hear this – but….

 you’re allowed to change.

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You’re allowed to have been a crazy party’ier and now want to stop the drugs or alcohol and lead a more positive life.

I did.

You’re allowed to have never been sure about what you wanted and where you wanted to go and now found something you’re REALLY passionate for and GO for it.

I did.

You’re allowed to have been someone who has never had a clue about fashion and now loves to at least try to keep up with the trends if that is what makes you happy.

I did.

You’re allowed to have been someone who was really negative and an asshole and now actually like people and want the best for them (in fact if that’s you then I am cheering you on so loudly)

And guess what? You’re allowed to SHARE ALL OF THAT. You’re allowed to be excited by it. You’re allowed to want to go on that journey and not do it in secret. You’re allowed to say how you feel and enjoy the transition.

YOU’RE ALLOWED TO HAVE THE POWER AND RIGHT TO ACT, SPEAK AND THINK EXACTLY AS YOU PLEASE without anyone attacking or judging or bringing you down.

And if that happens – maybe those people aren’t ready to move in to the next phase of your own life and that’s ok too, just love them where they’re at, don’t spend time with those that make you feel horrible about yourself and keep moving forward.

I think you are remarkable the way you are – flaws and eff up’s and bad choices, silly mistakes and ALL and I know who you are becoming is a beautiful best version of you and you shouldn’t be afraid to step in to that power and share it, not for one second.

So love YOU and start understanding that what people think of you is NONE of your business and start stepping in to more of who you WANT to be but have been scared to because of what ‘others might say’ … remember that those who matter won’t mind and those that mind don’t matter.

Cheering you on as you step in to who you were born to be, not who society has told you to be.

Remember those who dance are considered insane by those who can’t hear the music … so it doesn’t matter if people can’t hear your music, JUST NEVER STOP DANCING TO THE BEAT OF YOUR OWN DRUM and where that beat takes you.

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4 tips on playing bigger in your life

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“Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to the music you want to listen to. Play it loud as fuck and dance to it. Go out for a drive at midnight and forget that you have school the next day. Stop waiting for Friday. Live now. Do it now. Take risks. Tell secrets. This life is yours. When are you going to realize that you can do whatever you want?” – Louise Flory

Your alarm goes off and you are waking with a slight dread in your stomach, you’re not sure why, because life is actually pretty ok. Things aren’t necessarily extraordinary, but life is plodding along .

It’s there though, undeniably there, that feeling, that constant pulling at your heart and instinct. It’s a feeling you can’t quite put your finger on or articulate how you would like to when you’re trying to explain it to your lover or best friend, but it’s there.

You’re confused why you still aren’t deeply happy with ease. Annoyed that gratitude or impeccability of your word doesn’t happen more naturally. In fact, even a little lost in your place in this world. It’s the feeling I believe most common among all living creatures today, but a feeling I describe more as a calling, YOUR calling in fact.

The calling to play bigger in your life.

And you need to listen. You really, really need to listen.

There is no mistake that you feel this way either – our emotions are the most divine gift given when human spirit and form was created, that emotion, or calling as I like to say, is telling you to show up. Shed more masks and play a little bigger. And if you’re ready, I dare you to make the little bigger in to a LOT bigger.

Know this, know this with your whole heart and soul….

There is no passion to be found in playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.

Don’t ever ever ever shrink or hide your greatness fearful that someone won’t understand you. The people that need to be in your life are the ones that will show up as soon as you step in to your greatness.

I believe there are a few little secrets to living in to this calling though and playing bigger. So with all the loving intention and energy in the world, open your heart, listen more closely and see what resonates with you MOST – it’s probably the area that you need to work on most closely.

1. STOP COMPARING

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Comparison is, in every way shape and form, the thief of joy. To compare is to give away some of your joy, but not just that, a lot of your power. There is not a single soul on this earth that is the same as you. Not one. How divinely powerful and extraordinary is that? OWN that. Don’t dislike that. We were each made as unique as a snowflake, there isn’t a person in the WORLD that you can rightly compare yourself too.

The only person you can ever compare yourself to was the person YOU were yesterday – and try to be a little better. Never measure your self worth or greatness against any other. A lot of the time, in fact, EVERY time you are comparing yourself against another, you will be comparing completely different chapters of your life. What you THINK might be someones chapter 4, will be chapter 20 for them… they have gone through the mess, the trials, the shit, the struggles and are now on their journey to playing bigger themselves, where as you may have just started out so are still in the messy beginning part.

Everyone is different. But that is what gives us all our oneness. See YOU for who YOU really are. Beautiful. Unique. Extraordinary. A being of love. And go from there, never, ever, from a place of comparison.

2. NEVER SETTLE

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To settle on anything in life is to have given up. I believe, if you take all of the greats of the world; Ghandi, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, to name a mere few, a charactistic they all share is that they never, ever settled.

Of course, first you must know what you want, so do that – then don’t let go, don’t settle for second best, don’t write yourself off because you THINK you’re going to fall short. Your attitude towards anything is what will reward you success, and to have an attitude of never settling – on anything – love, career, friendships, goals – will give you a deeply rich, and deeply meaningful life.

3. WORK ON YOUR SELF WORTH DAILY

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There is no greater asset in the WORLD …than you. My name is Anna (soon to be) Richards and I am an advocate of selflishness. But not in the traditional sense. Selfish in the sense of pouring love and greatness in to yourself daily. I know fundamentally and through person experience that you absolutey cannot show up as an amazing friend, sister, wife, husband, brother, mother if you don’t first show up for yourself first. Think of it like putting your oxygen mask on first. By ensuring you are ok – getting enough sleep, exercise, time out for leisure activities, yoga, writing, whatever it does that LIGHTS you up … you will show up in the world as a first rate human. When you are empty, you show up empty. When you are full, you show up full.

ALWAYS BE A FIRST RATE VERSION OF YOURSELF .. instead of a second rate version of somebody else.

There is a quote I love and it goes a little like this;

When there is light in the soul there will be beauty in the person. When there is beauty in the person there will be harmony in the house. When there is harmony in the house there will be order in the nation. When there is order in the nation, there will be peace in the world.

So imagine this. You take care of yourself (especially you women who always always put others before themselves) .. you feel full. You wake up feeling happy and go to bed happy because you are taking care of yourself first… your love and self worth tank is full as you work on yourself daily … so, there is light in your soul so you show up as a happier more full human. Because of that, your household is more harmonious. There is love, laughter, peace. Because of that, there is more order in the nation and because there is order in the nation there is peace in the WORLD.

I feel that quote to my deepest core centre as I truly believe it to be true. The fastest and easiest way to play bigger in your world is to work on THIS point every single day without fail. YOU are your most important assest and your biggest why. Remember that, and you will playing so huge in your world you can’t help but inspire others to do the same.

4. Speak with Impeccability

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One of the most life changing books I ever read was the 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. In it there are 4 simple agreements to follow that he knows can change your life. One of the one’s that spoke loudest to me was “Speak impeccably”.

Let’s just first look at what that word means; Flawless. Seamless. Perfectly. Immaculately. Clearly. Beautifully. Exquisitely.

Do you believe, that if you showed up in your world every day speaking beautifully, clearly, immaculately, exquisteley – about the world, about others, about yourself (!!) you might alter your life greatly? The answer is absolutely yes. The power of the word is like no other. What you speak you manifest. What you think becomes. Manage your words and you will manage your world.

Not only does your world need more of this, the world in general needs more of this. I love to look at it like your words and therefore your actions can become part of the solution of this world, not the problem, and when you start showing up every day with divine language towards others and about others and about yourself, you play deeply greater. You also gain incredible integrity amongst those you are speaking with.

It is the easiest, fastest change you can make in your world and the one I encourage you to work on no matter what day in and out – choose impeccable words and how you speak and you will be showing up and playing so big in your world.

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There is no time better than the present to start living in to the person you were born to be, it just takes a choice to show up every day and play BIG in your life. I heard a quote last night and it fit so divinely in to these words that I hope inspire you to go and live a louder, bolder life – “you are so busy being yourself you just have no idea how beautiful you really are” … BE that person. Be so busy being yourself, which naturally makes you play bigger in your life that your beauty or light shines even brighter from within.

Today is the day to make that commitment to yourself – and as always, I’ll be cheering you on the loudest.

Anna x x

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